by Diana

Gender: Female

Age: 28
Race/ethnicity: Hispanic
Location: New York
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Grad student
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

A Very Exciting Time in My Life


How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was a study abroad student in Europe during my undergrad years. He was my professor and was  8 years older than me. He was very good looking. All the other female students thought he was hot, too, but I was lucky enough to be the one he was attracted to. We would talk a little after each class and he invited me out for coffee a few times. We did this while hiding from the other students and the program directors. He probably would have been fired if someone had seen us. The fact that we were hiding and the fact we had to keep it a secret made it all the more fun and exciting. Before the hookup I also went to his apartment a few times for social gatherings with the other students but we were never alone.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One day he invited me to his place for lunch after his class was over. He left before me and I met him there an hour or so after so no one knew. I felt very happy inside because I was going to be naked with someone for the first time, and the best part was that it was all in secret. I felt on top of the world because I knew it was gonna be an amazing experience. To this day, I giggle every time I think about that day.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? While we were making out in his apartment he told me he wanted to make love to me. I hadn’t had sex before this, so I told him I was a virgin. He took my clothes off and kissed me very passionately. I was very relaxed and didn’t feel scared. He was very gentle. I felt pain but it was the good kind of pain. After he was done he helped me get dressed. We had to be at a mandatory meeting soon after that and we were already late. We couldn’t get there together or people might suspect something. So I got there first and he arrived soon after.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We felt very attracted to each other. This just had to happen.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No alcohol, no drugs.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the first time, I went back to his apartment the next day, and the next day, and the day after that. Those were my last 4 nights in Europe and I wanted to make the most of them. I had to lie and make excuses for not being at home on time for dinner with my host family. He would take me home every time in his car and would drop me off a few blocks away from the house so that no one would see us.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate knew all about it. No one else knew.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. Those were the best four nights of my life!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!