Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Free
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 26
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Absinthe and Afterthoughts
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was out on the town rebounding after a difficult breakup. My girls and I went to a club downtown that was serving American absinthe for the night. So basically watered-down, licorice-tasting swill on fire. We pregamed with a bottle of jäger each- I was young what can I say. I was dressed like Chrissy Hine from the Pretenders in a white suit with red lipstick on. Basically a DTF outfit if I ever planned one. Well, at least I was noticed. By this Argentinian soccer player who didn’t really speak English. I had seen him at the club before but didn’t know his name. He had thick curly hair and a beautiful mouth. His skin was tan and his body muscular but lean. He was friendly but a bit mysterious. And totally into me from the first meeting.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was all pretty spontaneous and organic. He liked my outfit, I liked his hair. We were talking until we were slurring then suddenly we were out in the desolate parking lot making out on top of my car.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We ended up starting to have sex on top of my car. Until drunkenly we both realized that that might not be the best idea so we moved to the inside of the car. Because I guess we just had to have each other right there and couldn’t have found shelter like adults? All I know is the car was more steamy than a scene from gorillas in the mist and we were going at it like there was no tomorrow. I was a little tall for the backseat but he found a way to make me come orally and then he eventually came when we fucked. He was a pretty good lay but a really wet kisser. We were physically a good match.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I was on birth control and he used a condom. We asked each other hurriedly while taking off each other’s pants if the other was “clean” we both had had checkups recently and all was clear.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Sheer rush. Rebounding. A good story perhaps. Overall- I wanted him and he wanted me and we both wanted sex. It was fun!
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Lots of alcohol. But we were both pretty present. He would call me for awhile after but I would be upfront and tell him I wasn’t interested in dating. I was in a tough spot.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He called me to hang out. I was honest with him about not having any intentions to pursue a future. I’d see him around. We were cool. But I wasn’t in a place to be intimate with anyone. I just wanted sex. He understood.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told my friends who were there that night and wondered where I disappeared to. Told my current boyfriend who I live with who I’ve been with for awhile. He thinks it’s hilarious. My friends at the time did as well. They were supportive. They did want me to date him for whatever reason- except for my best female friend who told me he may be a good lay but- what will you talk about? Yeah. Exactly.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Totally. And it was more than pleasant. Even seeing him afterwards- it was a sexy secret. A shared story. The lack of a second opportunity was a tease but we both moved on quickly.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. I don’t think I’ve ever regretted a hookup. It’s always been on my terms. I’ve always made sure to communicate well with the person involved what was happening.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best- the freedom of the action.
Worst- the ripping of my pants.
Forgot that happened. It was a mistake but I loved those pants.
I already knew how I felt about casual sex but this experience was liberating and exhilarating.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Never waste someone’s time. Always be honest from the jump.
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