by Sophie

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Philippines
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Recruitment
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Accidental Things in Life

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is charming on his own. Always jolly. We met at work through a friend. When we first met, he had lots of questions then as days passed, we got closer to one another.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was the company’s Christmas party and we both got drunk. When the party ended, we left together since it was our routine – I was always dropping him off at his place. That night, when I dropped him off, he invited me to go inside his home to drink some tea so as to rest and let the alcohol subside as well before I headed home. I agreed and went inside. As we were in his sala, drinking tea, he suddenly held me close – close enough that I could feel his penis touching my behind. Then before I knew it, he was removing my pants.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I could see that he was having fun. He started fingering me which it was the first time that I experienced it, so I was unable to resist. Afterwards, he inserted his penis into my behind.  This shocked me, but as a person who has a hard time saying no, I could not resist. I was actually hesitating during that time because of my beliefs as a Christian but was unable to do anything. After what happened, I cried and he asked me what was wrong. It was actually my first time – that is why I couldn’t help but cry as I felt that something was taken away from me.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was emotionally unstable that time and at the same time, I felt like I was so attached to him after what happened. I kept on looking for him and it hurt when he did not reply or he replied late. Right now, it is still the same. I kept thinking of what happened in the past and that I should have not have given in.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends. They just gave me advice on how to act the next time it happens.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I felt that I was not ready at that time.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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