What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Slovakia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self-employed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? no
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 7
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Damian was quite tall and skinny, had a bald head, brown eyes, would wear only black clothes, and was very introverted. We were classmates in high school, and he was usually sitting by himself, keeping distance from others and would write/draw something while listening to music. He had also some psychological issues and skipped school from time to time because of it. I used to sometimes talk to him, and I feel like we had some internal connection. I felt like we understood each other, but that was it and nothing ever happened beyond some conversation.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After high school finished, I moved from my small town to a different city to study at university. I had a boyfriend, and I had lost contact with Damian. However, after almost 2 years went by, when I went home for the Easter holiday, we started messaging again. After a few messages, he asked me if I would like to go out for a coffee. I wanted to see him and felt like I could also use some fresh air away from my family, so I agreed and later that afternoon/evening, we met in our local cafe. We talked about normal things: what was new, what we were doing, etc. We had some tea/coffee, but as the conversation continued, we had also a few glasses of wine, but not too much. I have no idea where the time went, but it was already getting dark outside (but there was still enough light to see everything), and I got called home for dinner. It was a great meeting, and I enjoyed our conversation and recollection of the good times we had in the past. He paid the bill and offered to walk me home. When we were leaving, I could feel the alcohol in my head, but I had no problems walking or controlling myself. So instead of the usual path, we took a little detour around the city center, still continuing our conversation. Quite soon, he admitted how he really felt about me during all those years and that he was in love with me, both physically and mentally, but was too shy to tell me (plus I had other boyfriends). I didn’t know what to say, but it was very cute and somehow improved my mood, so I just hugged him and thanked him for the honesty. I wanted to continue walking, but instead, he grabbed my hand and pulled me from the street behind one of the garage buildings. I didn’t understand what is happening, but I guess alcohol helped me decide to just go with him and not resist or ask questions.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once behind the garage, just a few meters from the street with quite many people walking, he pushed me against the wall, gently forcing me to lean against it, pulled down both my jeans and panties in one go without even unbuttoning me first, and soon I could feel his hips hitting mine. I realized what was happening quite quickly, but I didn’t mind. I was probably still affected by his earlier confession and the alcohol I had. He put one of his hands on the wall and the other he rested on my right breast and increased his pounding. I could hear people walking and talking near us and that only made me wetter. I was just afraid that someone might come to investigate the smacking sounds and our quiet moans because I was sure they could hear.
He was doing his job, going in and out, but I could feel his rather small dick (compared to my boyfriend at that time) fall out of me quite often, so I stuck out my ass to give him better access to my wet pussy. I realized I didn’t even know if he had a condom or not, and I was not taking any pills, so I tried to touch his cock, but I couldn’t reach him. I looked at him over my shoulder and when our eyes met, he smiled at me and doubled the frequency. He then reached his orgasm a few seconds later. He pulled his cock out, and I felt his warm cum on my ass and legs. I used some grass nearby to clean it off and quickly pulled my clothes back on before someone saw us.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Once we both put on our pants and checked that we were both ready to go, we continued in our walk home. We talked mostly about other things as if nothing happened. I only asked him if he used a condom, to which he said of course, but I still don’t understand when he put it on or off and how he managed to cum on me. When I got home, we hugged and said goodbye and that was it. I went to my room and apparently called my best friend to share all the details and then went directly to bed. When I woke up the next morning, I wasn’t sure if it really happened or if it was only dream, but I found a lot of messages from my friend and saw that we had talked on the phone, but I couldn’t remember calling her. Plus, I had another shock when I started to put on clothes for church in the morning and found a large stain from his cum running down the fabric of my ass and right leg. I tried to wash it off, but nothing helped, so I had to wear another dress. But that’s not all! Once I came to the church, my mom pointed out that I had something white on the back of my shoe. I almost had a heart attack when I noticed it was another cum stain, and I had to find some plausible explanation for it.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to 2 of my friends and 1 friend of my boyfriend. About 1 week later, I confessed to my boyfriend too.
I called the first friend right after it happened, and she was very enthusiastic and wanted to know all the details. She said she would like to have such an experience too. My second friend didn’t like it and told me I should be ashamed for it. She asked me how could I have done this to my boyfriend with whom I was with for 3 years. I asked about how to clean the cum from my jeans to my boyfriend’s friend, after which he started to ask what happened and for details. He seemed to be somewhere between my other 2 friends: not so enthusiastic, but clearly, he enjoyed the thought (and said he dreamed about something like this too).
My boyfriend was surprisingly calm (okay, it’s not surprising, he was always very calm). He asked me why I did it, and after I explained the alcohol, he said he was not happy, but he will let it pass because of the alcohol (but I have to start drinking less and promise not to do it again). Later, he got into my account and found conversations with my friends, which he said didn’t really seem like I regretted what happened and we had some argument, but we were still in a relationship. At least until a few months later, when he broke up with me saying that he tried to forgive, but he couldn’t and that he still had nightmares about it and needed to be alone. And with Damian, we met a few more times shortly after it happened, but never really talked about it, nor have we repeated it again.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I loved my boyfriend, and we had a good relationship. Even after it happened and I told him, it seemed okay, but then it just ended because of this hookup.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was an interesting experience, and I finally got to know better the boy I kind of liked.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The stress the next morning when I found the cum on my clothes and the breakup with my boyfriend that followed.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Maybe a little bit, but to be honest, I had several more hookups, even while in a relationship, so I am not sure.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? To be honest, I was a bit disappointed by his dick size. It was very small and under the circumstances, I did not enjoy the sex almost at all. Only the idea of getting caught made me horny and wet.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am not a big fan of it, but it happens and sometimes it’s just because of circumstances.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I have just discovered it and it is great. It is exactly what I needed to share my experience and read others.
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