What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Toronto
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Administrative
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Adult Massage While Wife’s Away
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Paid Masturbation
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Very tall East Indian woman with a nice petite frame and a nice fake chest, long black hair. Her breath was fantastically bad, OMG! I found her on the adult massage spa’s website list of attendants. I met her when she walked into the room where the massage was to take place, at the spa. Before I met her I felt the photos were hot and so I was eager to meet her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I planned this visit because I live in a sexless marriage and my wife was away for an extended period, so I took advantage of the freedom to have unaccounted for time.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was the standard adult massage, and she didn’t seem to be too skilled at it. This was not my first visit to one of these places. She casually massaged my naked body as I laid on my front. She climbed up on the table and tried to rub her boobs on me in a sexy way, but it just ended up being cumbersome. She asked me to flip over and I did. She pretty much went straight for the handjob with little teasing to harden me, but once she started she demonstrated some pretty good handjob skill. She climbed up on the table again and awkwardly spun around so that I could see her in 69. She had a very nice bald pussy. I did not touch it, as per the rules, and I was not interested in attempting to please her, this was all about my pleasure. There was very little talking, and all of my efforts were focussed on keeping her happy and comfortable so that she thought well of me. Right on the clock she increased the pace and finished me, hopped off and gave me the towel to clean up. She showered off the oil, then I did too. An awkwardly personal, yet professional hug was given as I left, and walked out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt like I wasted $200 because she was not as fun as I hoped. It was a mildly glorified handjob.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To cheer myself up
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Wasted money. I know my wife would be hurt, but there is no way for her to know and I can’t live without someone touching me.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Ejaculated without doing it myself.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Spent more money than it was worth.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? She made me feel a little shame about my body, but I haven’t changed my views.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If you’re working with people as your job, make sure your breath won’t take down an elephant!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex is so much fun and we should not shame people for having sex. The issues surrounding sex are emotions, taking advantage of people, sickness, and stupidity leading to pregnancy and sickness. If we all were just open about those points, it would be really different. It can totally fuck up monogamous relationships though.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? The website makes it hard to read the posts easily, but the idea is great. I get hard here.
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