What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Florida
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Wife
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Three years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a military man. His name is RV and he is tall, about 6′ 2″, Mexican. Very handsome. He was an old coworker. I didn’t know him very well back then.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started chatting on Facebook then moved to Viber. We started an emotional affair for several months. He was stationed in Korea at the time. Then one day he told me he would be here in a day or so and wanted to hook up.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I met RV in his car by the NCO club. He was very charming. We agreed to have sex so I got on top of him. It didn’t last too long as his penis wasn’t going in much then it got soft. He moved me and masturbated a while then we tried again but a cop drove by and ended it. A day or so later I went to his hotel room on the base. We talked for a few minutes then he grabbed me and started taking off my clothes. Said he was in a hurry and his daughter thought he was jogging. We took off our clothes and I noticed for the first time he had a small penis. Maybe four inches. He wanted a blowjob but when I went to do it it smelled like arm pits and ass. I told him I couldn’t do it. We laid on the bed and he kissed me and played with my tits. Then he climbed on top and started hammering away. For a minute I thought I was going to orgasm then his dick started to go soft. He masturbated a while and shoved it in again. He fucked me for a while but his dick never got very hard. Then he just quit and put his clothes on and left. Just like he fucked a hooker. He didn’t even ejaculate. Just left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt used. The guy bragged for months how good he was but he sucked. A week later he texted and asked how it was. I just told him “good”. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Then he started bragging how he banged the shit out of it. What a loser.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? I liked the guy a lot. But his penis was small and he could not get hard much. He is delusional about his abilities.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Nothing. I hated it
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Worst thing was I gave him a third chance and it was worse. Then he hounded me for months for naked pictures and video chat so he could masturbate. Then he shared my pictures and joked he made me his slut. Lied about what happened in the bedroom.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I will never cheat in my life. Never.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Handsome guys that brag about themselves suck in bed.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? May be great for some. Not for me.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s ok.
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