What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Writer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

My African-American Experience

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was my first year living in a new city without going home for Christmas. Unfortunately, all of my friends did, so I found myself without plans for New Year’s Eve. Not wanting to spend it alone, I browsed the Craigslist ads, but not the hookup section. After about a half-dozen emails, I got a response.

Angela (not her real name) was a big girl, tall and well-built. Originally, we were going to hang out at a tourist attraction near my house, but ended up just staying in and watching the ball drop on TV with some champagne.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Appropriately, it started with a midnight kiss. We’d kind of been flirting leading up to it, but from there, it led to making out, then heavy petting. She had HUGE tits, the kind you just wanted to put your face in between. So I did, and she suggested we move from off the couch to the bedroom. Jackpot!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After making out some more, and spending a lot of time sucking on her tits, she started kissing down me and took my dick out, before giving me an INCREDIBLE blowjob. I mean mind-blowing. I came so hard in her mouth that I don’t even remember if she swallowed or not. I told her how incredible it was, and she replied, “It’s just head.” Oh man, this girl. She spent the night and we picked up right where we left off in the morning. More of that unbelievable oral and I was hard as a rock. I sucked on her tits some and she asked if I had a condom. Got it out, laid back, put it on and she hovered over me. Not easy, being a big gal, but when I slid in, it was heaven. She rocked herself back and forth while I sucked on her tits, which were very easy to reach. I came hard, and she did two moments later.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She went home, but we saw each other again a couple weeks later. She came over, took a shower, then gave me some more of that bomb ass head. Not sure why, but I wanted to stand while she did it, so when I came I nearly fell over.

I didn’t see her again after that. I met someone I was interested in (but unavailable, typical), and didn’t have feelings for this girl. She Facebook friended me years later, and I saw that she was married. Good for her. It wasn’t long after that she UNfriended me, for whatever the reason.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a close female friend of mine that I hooked up with someone on New Year’s. She was dating my best male friend at the time, who even though we were super close, I couldn’t talk about this stuff with him since he’s super-religious and judgey. But I’m sure she told him because she’s not a great secret keeper.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That head, having sex for the first time in a year or so.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was young, dumb, and couldn’t reconcile my sexual appetite with my romantic one.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I haven’t had a lonely New Year’s since, but I know that there’s a good chance I’ll be able to find some lonely hearts sex if I do.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I kinda wish I’d jumped in the shower with her the second time she came over.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I had a decent amount of casual sex before I was in my current relationship. It was fun, I just wish I’d been more mature about it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.

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