What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 56
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Utrecht
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? hundreds
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Airplane Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had many partners. I like to be free (no relationships) and I travel a lot. I love sex so whenever opportunity strikes I go with the flow. I did have one steady relationship of 15 years. We broke up 2 years ago so I have a lot to catch up. I am free and I like being free. My partners were mostly a little dangerous. I guess I like/need the excitement. What attracts me most (this might sound strange) is the personality of a person, not so much what they look like. Although I prefer long, dark and handsome.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was on a plane returning from New York to Dusseldorf. I sat in the back row of the plane and was looking forward to a quiet flight since the plane was almost empty. Then this guy showed up with his son. He sat next to me and after we took off he told his son to go lay down a couple of rows in front of us. Then he and I started talking, we had our meal and we drank quite some wine. Then the lights dimmed in the cabin and the stewardess brought us pillows and blankets…….

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It felt good, warm etc etc and I thought this is a once in a lifetime opportunity. This is what you see in films but it usually doesn’t happen in real life so just go for it! So I kissed him, he kissed me back and I went under the blanket to give him a blowjob. Eventually we ended up on the (very small!!) toilet of the plane. Afterward, I fell asleep in his arms. It wasn’t the best sex ever but kind of romantic.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt amazing and it showed. I walked out from the plane and the friend that was waiting for me asked me. What happened to you? You look radiant, amazing! The whole trip to New York was amazing (had some casual sex there too) and the trip back home couldn’t have been better. I felt free, independent and totally in control.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my friends. They love the story!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sense of freedom and control. I was the one who wanted it and just went for it

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing realy

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, still love it

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Maybe it is because I am dutch and we are more free but I find the questions funny. I was the one who wanted it and went for it and my friends where thrilled. As long as it feels good for me they don’t care about my sex life. As long as I enjoy it.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am what I am. I tried to deny it for many years because I felt pressure to have a long time relationship. I tried several times but felt held back. Not sexually but in general. Now I am back to myself again. Free. I love sex but I just do not like to be possessed in whatever way.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I am very curious about the outcome. I think it is a great project. Interesting!

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