by skinnybitch49

Gender: female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: brown?
Location: London
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: student
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: islam
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

All Talk, No Cock

How long ago did this hookup happen? almost 5 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? no-fuck fuck-buddy

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? he’s quite good looking, we’ve known each other since pre-school but weren’t exactly close as friends. he was mr. popular so obviously was very attractive and I was pretty shy

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? he had a girlfriend at the time who he was dating for quiet sometime, she wasn’t in our school so we used to flirt in school a lot and talk on the phone for hours together as well. I told him I wanted to break my virginity before I turned 17 and he basically said he’d have sex with me so we used to talk about it A LOT and in great detail, including what position we would do, how much it would hurt for me, etc. so we finally set a day as to when I would be going to his place for me to break my virginity and we both were really looking forward to it

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? when I got to his place it was quite awkward because it was the first time I had ever met him out of school alone and we hadn’t had any contact before, like never even kissed or anything so it took time to get comfortable with each other. he switched the light off, we both got into bed and took off our clothes, and then we started making out and he stuck his finger inside me and it kind of hurt. then I handed him the condom I stole from my parents drawer and told him to put it on. he went into the bathroom and was taking forever to come back out so I asked him if there was anything wrong and he said he had lost his boner. I suggested watching porn and he did apparently, but he came back out and said it was just not going up. he also mentioned that he was feeling too guilty about cheating on his girlfriend. so we just made out and spooned each other for a while. although we didn’t have sex he was very affectionate and kept kissing me on my shoulder and tickling my hip bone. then we disappointedly put our clothes back on and he promised me that the next time I left his place I wouldn’t be a virgin.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? condom, but just to prevent pregnancy- we never really thought about STIs at all

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? because I didn’t want to be a 17 year old virgin

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? he smoked a joint before we got into bed. I think he kind of blamed the weed for his loss of boner as well

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went to his place again, to give it a second try but his dad came home early that day so we couldn’t have sex and I had to leave. we never tried again after that and I’m glad, because right after this incident I got into a serious relationship with someone else and so we kind of stopped talking after that. I don’t really feel anything about it to be honest because he and me are still friends, it’s not awkward in anyway because it was ages ago and I think we’ll always have this silly incident between us to laugh about. I still think he’s very attractive though, and if I am single again so hey, who knows? 😉

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friends, obviously, and I did tell the person I started dating right after about it as well. My friends were in awe and super curious about it all and my boyfriend at the time didn’t really care, though I know he always thought I actually did end up breaking my virginity with my ‘no-fuck fuck-buddy’ and only said I was still a virgin just to comfort him..

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? yes and yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? not at all, haha

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I did learn a lot from this experience although we never actually had sex at all..
1) good sex happens to those who wait, don’t get horny and impatient
2) don’t expect anything from anyone, you’ll never be disappointed
3) nothing in life should be taken too seriously, regardless of what it is- because even if it goes wrong you’re going to look back and laugh about it someday

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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