What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Waitress
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fluid
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Alleged Non-Virgin
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 6’3″ handsome, with gorgeous black curly hair. I knew him for about 5 months prior to the hookup and we’d been talking regularly and started dating 3 months prior to the hookup.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup was in a hotel. I had no idea that this was going to happen because we were just on a date and then he told me that he booked a hotel for the night.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was the worst sex I’ve ever had. He told me that he had had sex before but he didn’t even do any foreplay and tried to just stick it in. I had to guide him and get on top too.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt awful. I was 18 at the time and I was still relatively new to sex. I felt like because he had already paid for the hotel I was obliged to go and do what he was expecting. Now in retrospect, I realize that I should never feel like I must do something if I do not want to do it myself.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? Once his pants were off I just went along with it
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they were very supportive
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? Because it wasn’t what I wanted and I took a boy’s virginity then just blocked him out of my life when I found out he lied.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I learned how to say no
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I took his virginity
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It did for a little, it made me realize that sex with the wrong person is no fun
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
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