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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Almost Made A Mistake

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met him on an online app. I was bored a week before and started a conversation with a random guy I met online. He messaged me the next week saying he was masturbating to the thought of having sex with me. Wasn’t sure how I felt about that.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He asked me to meet him for drinks. He sent me a message two hours before our appointment to say he was sick. I didn’t see his message until I had reached the venue. I let him know that I was there and he asked me to wait. He showed up and walked me home. On the way he kept trying to get closer, putting his arm around me and trying to hold my hand.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got to my place he suddenly started kissing me; deep kisses and holding me tight. I don’t know why, but I just went along with it. The truth is I was super horny. He didn’t look like his pictures but he was okay looking. I really wanted to try out a one-night stand, so I let him in and he immediately pushed me against the wall and kissed me again. Soon he was fingering me. I helped him take off his shirt and pants and before long we were lying on my bed. I asked if he had a condom, but he didn’t. I told him that I could not have sex with him.

He went down on me. He started off a bit rough but got gentle when I asked him to. He tried to penetrate me, but I pushed him onto his back. He pleaded with me to let him get into me for a few seconds. I let him in and in the time it took for me to go up and down two times, he suddenly pushed me off and came on his stomach. I was so relieved that he didn’t cum inside me. He quickly dressed up and left. I deleted his contact immediately and hoped to never see him again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He left, and I suddenly realized what had just happened.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? Unplanned foolish mistake

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Had a one night stand and realized that it is not that bad.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Was not attracted to him. Also got scared that this mistake would be one I would remember because I was not on birth control.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s okay as long as both parties are safe.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

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