What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 60
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Santa Maria
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Sex Tourist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I’m a switch in D/s terms, Dominance/submission but prefer Leader/student terminology
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

Amsterdam Surprise

How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 yrs

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? W. an angle of mercy in red light district. She had muscles like she worked out, my size and weight. Each time I walked past her window, she gave me an inviting look. This being my first trip to Amsterdam, I was just getting my feet there. I went with my male friend H. He is a worldwide sex tourist like me, but we operate differently. We would never think the same girl attractive. He was no help in how to select from about 500 available girls. I was on my own. So many that I got paranoid. It was too good to be true; there is a catch here, a sting operation or some other unknown ill. I had settled in on finding women who looked like ex-girlfriends that I had been missing. I went with them and just started talking to them as if they were my ex. Just saying how much I missed them and what I forgot to tell them. These girls didn’t quite get it. One cut me off and demanded to know when I was going to fuck her. I did at her request, I’m too submissive that way. I paid, can I just talk, that’s sometimes my deal. But W. the girl of this story eventually won me over with her muscular physic. I never went with a girl like that before.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We began at her display window but soon moved to an upstairs very large bed. Then I did some act that frequently surprises me. A complicated role play comes right out of my subconscious desires all neatly prepared to present to W. and she gets it. We are to wrestle clothed Greco Roman style with no grab ass. Standard rules and scoring. I’m a wrestler and referee combined. The winner gets to be the top man, call all the shots for sex later or as top man, she could just toss me out the door. Done. She asked how she could trust me on the deal? Obvious, you just whipped my ass, if I flake, you will pin and take as you wish. She never played this before. I’m so glad she took the hook. You see all the while I’m playing her in a good way. The planning for this started without my knowledge in my subconscious. I can not believe that the planning was all done in the 45min since I first spotted her. I did note her biceps and first asked myself what I could do with those

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So first we wrestled, I pushed her hard, she just barely won. I sandbagged a little. Oh, she was going to win. I had it planned that way. Funny how a person can fool another when in such close contact. She won top man, I gave her nothing. As a working girl, I expect she may not have gotten that opportunity often. She was a regular girl, not a dominatrix. So this was new to her. I always like to take a novel approach. Else I endure the ruin of some other guys awkward approach. This was also a plan to reduce her anger. They seldom admit it but do have anger towards men, some/all free-floating anger not attached to any event, but there to dump. And I like sex with women who have very little anger towards me because I feel it even if they don’t admit it. When she whipped my ass, it drained her anger. We went downstairs and she had her way with me. So satisfied with her climax she got up and started singing gospel songs and wanted to call her sister with a report of the news and get her sister down there right away to meet me. And me, I’m an odd guy. I just had to leave. Better to have a good time and get away before things really got out of hand. After all, I knew that the two could really whip me. And W. thought the whole deal was real, she really did whip me. I was just fooling around felt so good to trick her in a positive way.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great for the next day and feeling rings true for 20 years. I hope she spreads news of our fun, others understand and adopt it, it gains a name and is put on TV. Well, I am a bit grandiose. I will never see her again. I planted my seed, I hope it grows.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? One woman on the net, really a stranger in a chat room. She encouraged me as she understood how it worked. Some girls ask me what I like sexually. What am I supposed to say? It is roleplay mixed with power and dominance and secretly I don’t tell you half of what I’m thinking. Well that’s what I call regular sex, doesn’t everybody?

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Surprised myself in the same way a dream which your mind makes up for itself surprises you. And it included my partner who trusted me a bit to get the ball rolling, and I was in. She got it. I never had to say role play and experiment. Again those are words she has heard from other dudes. I seek a pristine path into her mind around the possible wreckage of failed experiments by other guys. I want her to be a virgin to me. She was a virgin wrestler to me. A virgin top man also, I believe. We didn’t directly talk in such terms. Sometimes women especially like a little privacy with there sex. Not intimacy in full. Seems sometimes I don’t really notice body parts too much. I’m a story, imagination themes man.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Haven’t found many chances to replicate it. My sister of 98 lbs is below my weight class. Although she could stand a good ass whipping, she doesn’t even know what a top man is. She has been a mistress to powerful men her whole life. I did get the concept across to her with stand up Indian wrestling and no sex afterward. She got it. The only time I’ve been able to replicate it approximately. Some girls think I’m trying to beat them up. No, let’s pretend you beat me up. They can never lose. Frustrating they will no even try it. I promise fun at every step, to stop at any time. The worst is trying to please a woman who has so little trust in men and will admit none of that holding her head high until the day she flips out, gets real with herself and becomes a full-fledged man-hater.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, hookups are a good way to test sex inventions, stories, ideas, fantasies.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Sex is amazing. New ways of doing it are always possible and only limited by your imagination. No need to have sex go stale even with the same partner. Lots of exciting possibilities.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it all good follow a few rules just that easy, 3 point system 1. talk STD’s 2. pregnancy and 3. expectations. If all acceptable answers, it’s get it on time. Normally I like a lot of intimate disclosure before sex when I believe it is going to be long term. But casual not necessary, more animal-like. We are animals after all.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Wonderful, a place to leave stories that have been wasting inside of me.

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