What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
An Odd Rebound
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a short brunette, pale but not super pale. We were friends but I only truly knew her through other people.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It wasn’t very spontaneous. We were texting for a while and planned to have sex at some point. She invited me over to her house to hang out. Once there she talked about how inexperienced she was (though not a virgin) and how she was wanting to change that.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was strictly missionary and uncomfortable. She just laid there, stiff as a board and not knowing what to do. She wasn’t a good kisser either. I was using protection but after some time, I felt the condom break but we continued and I pulled out when I orgasmed a little after. It was just an inexperienced girl not knowing what to do and it ended sort of the same way, uncomfortable.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She fell asleep starfished on the bed with her two dogs so there was no room for me to sleep comfortably so I left around 3 am. The next day, I did not regret the hookup but I knew it would never happen again. She is still a friend of mine but we don’t talk much now, which is fine because we never talked that much before.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, It was easy/convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they were happy I was getting back out there.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was different from my ex-girlfriend who I had been with for a year and a half
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? how uncomfortable it was
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? absolutely, casual sex is not something for everyone but is quite the experience
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She’s a lovely girl but I felt like our connection wasn’t enough to make the hookup enjoyable whatsoever.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think I am done with casual sex, it was fun while it lasted but I personally would rather have sex with people I love.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is an exciting way to publish stories about peoples sex life!
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