by Abominatrix

Gender: female
Age: 30
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: England
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: writer
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: none
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? one night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Grungy dude, skinny and blonde. Never hooked up. Knew his older brother. He seemed nice and laid back and quite attractive.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At his work place – a club where he is a barman. I asked him home. Not planned.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We used some electro sex toys, he tried anal and hurt me, I lost interest but jerked him off. I didn’t get off. 

He stayed and was very clingy. In the morning he hung around for ages telling narcissistic stories about his travelling.

He was a terrible lover. He eventually left.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Used a condom. I was also on the pill. Did not discuss STI tests.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I hadn’t had sex for a while, thought it would be fun. It was not.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had been drinking. Couldn’t tell you how much, a few beers and jacks.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I hoped he wouldn’t expect a retry. He didn’t. I still think he’s a nice guy but have no interest in him sexually.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just a few friends. No reaction, just acknowledged.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yup

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes, the sex was awful.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was just terrible. It changed nothing.

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

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