Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Gay
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16-20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
And The Breakfast Wasn’t Even Good
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was named Ignacio. He was taller than me and had bigger feet. He was wearing tights and a snapback that I wanted to steal. I had never met him before, we met each other in a club. At first glance he was tall, lanky, and cute.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We eye fucked for a few minutes, and I started dancing closer to him, and then he said hello. There was no planning, and I would say that we both instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After we made out for a while in the club we left and walked around the block. We ran into some of his friends and chatted for a moment before heading back to his house in a cab. I was progressively less and less attracted to him, both because his face was uglier than I had imagined and because he was a terrible kisser. In his flat, I tried to delay having sex by asking him questions about his book collection (he didn’t have very many), because I enjoyed the kissing so little. Eventually we went into his bedroom and had terrible, vanilla sex: oral, flip-fucking anal, and mutual masturbation. I was consistently bored and not turned on, but eventually we both had orgasms.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t discuss STI history, but we used condoms for anal sex.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was bored and hadn’t had sex for a couple of weeks.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had taken about six shots of vodka at the beginning of the night, but was starting to sober up when I met him. I don’t know if he had had anything to drink, but we drank some hard cider in his flat.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both took showers, and then we sat in his living room and watched a video of a fashion show of a label that I had told him about. I ended up staying the night because it was late (I wanted to leave) and we had similarly terrible, vanilla sex in the morning. Then we ate breakfast; the breakfast was also terrible. I felt disappointed by the quality of the sex, and wished that I had left immediately after finishing. I had no hopes for the future, but I did give him my number because he asked for it and I felt bad (he called me and I didn’t call him back).
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friend with whom I was at the club, and she reacted positively (“nice”) then we moved on. I then told another friend, on her Facebook wall, about the conversation that we had after the hookup; she responded with a Like. This was a totally unremarkable hookup so I didn’t feel compelled to tell many people about it.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. It was disappointing, but it improved my self-esteem. I was in the middle of a dry spell and this interrupted it, which I appreciated.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about the hookup was that it was a hookup, because I hadn’t had sex for a little while and wanted to. The worst thing about it was the quality of the kissing and the sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
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