by A

Gender: Female
Age: 22
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: New York, NY
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Somewhere in the ballpark of 15-20 (not sure exactly)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

And Then I Fell Asleep

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met my partner in a store that he worked in near my apartment.  I had been in a few times and always thought he was cute, so I finally asked him out when he was standing outside the shop during my walk home one day.  We planned to meet for drinks after work one day that week.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went out on a night that was during my final exams week for school, so I had originally planned to meet him for only a drink or two before returning to my studies for the night (that didn’t happen).  We ended up staying out for several hours and then he walked me to my apartment and we made out on my stoop for what felt like a really long time until I drunkenly insisted that I really did have to get back to studying for my finals.  He proceeded to tell me how he wanted to come upstairs and fuck me, at which point I decided that would be a more fun way to spend the rest of the night.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We came upstairs and the clothes quickly came off.  I gave him head for awhile and then he returned the favor and went down on me.  Now, remember that I mentioned this was during my final exams period, so I had not gotten much sleep in the previous few days! Suddenly I am waking myself up because I was talking in my sleep…saying something along the lines of “did she buy the soda? No wait I’m sorry that didn’t come out right; did she DRINK the soda?!” Apparently I had briefly dozed off and started dreaming about soda while this guy was going down on me…oops.

It’s not that he was doing a poor job or that it didn’t feel good…I guess I was just a little too sleep deprived to be a functioning human at that moment.  Also, I’m pretty sure he didn’t even notice I had fallen asleep. Once I was awake, I apologized and we both laughed it off as no big deal.  He asked if I had any condoms and we started having sex, which was good but a little bit mediocre until he started choking me, which really turns me on.  Then we kept fucking for what felt like an exceptionally long time, even to the point that I was kinda feeling like, okay, are we done yet? Finally he warned me (almost apologetically) that he was going to come, he did, and then we cuddled and fell asleep.  Maybe we talked for a little while afterwards, but I can’t really remember.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did not have an orgasm (that is not entirely unusual for me) and he did have one.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I am on birth control and we also used a condom.  We did not discuss STI history, but I got tested before and after this hookup (I do every time I have a new partner).

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I always thought that he was attractive and felt that we had a sexual connection when we went out together.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, we both were drinking alcohol throughout the night.  I’d say we each had five or six drinks in a four hour time period.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He spent the night and we walked to work together in the morning. We went out once more the next week, but I had to go meet other friends later and he was exhausted from staying out late the night before so we didn’t hook up again.  Now we run into each other on the block sometimes and exchange hellos, but that’s pretty much it.  I don’t care that it turned out like that because I didn’t have any expectations at stake, although I guess I’m a little bummed that we didn’t continue hooking up because that would have been convenient since he’s always in the neighborhood (haha, just saying).  Now…I don’t know, I never think about him, but I guess if the opportunity presented itself I’d have sex with him again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told most of my friends this story because I found the whole falling asleep incident to be ridiculous and kind of funny.  They reacted that way as well- they laughed, said they were very surprised that that could even happen, and told me I need to sleep more.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, consensual for both parties.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope, no regrets.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was that I went out with the guy and didn’t just wonder about what would happen if I ever asked out the guy that works at the store down the street.

The worst thing is that he had this expectation that he should try to last forever while we had sex.  It was strange, he was pretty clearly trying to extend his stamina for as long as he could manage…almost like an insecurity about his sexual abilities? I don’t really know how to explain it.  He was a good partner and I had a good time, but some of his moves were cheesy straight-out-of-a-porno status and not really in a good way.  It felt like he was overthinking it too much or something.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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