What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 46
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Akron, OH
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Mlitary
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10-12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 Years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s a tall, slender but muscular, kinda goofy guy, but still cute. We were in the same reserve unit, and had only casually chatted on drill weekends.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So we were out of state doing our 2 week summer training, and there was a LOT of down time/boredom. The 2 of us had been hanging out in a truck that day waiting for something. When we got back to the barracks, I couldn’t stop thinking about how easy it would be to hook up. Even though I was in a good relationship, I had been looking for an opportunity to cheat because I had never done it before, ever. So I sent him a text asking how he felt about sneaking off. After a little bit, he said he was down, and asked if I was thinking the same as him. We came up with a plan via text.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He went to the PX to get vodka and condoms; bought the vodka, but chickened out on the condoms. He asked me to go get them, and when I got back we met up in a little shack that I’m pretty sure was part of an internment camp at one time. He was hard when I got there, and pretty well endowed. He bent me over a table with his shorts around his ankles. Then he picked me up, flipped me and fucked me across the table. I remember thinking, “Okay, this is what cheating is”, and I liked it. Neither one of us took off our shoes or socks or even kissed. After he finished, he paced around like he had just finished working out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both got dressed and went back to the barracks seperately as not to look suspicious. He barely talked to me for the rest of the time at summer camp. Eventually we did start talking and texting again. He told me that he felt pretty guilty because he had just gotten married about a month before our first hookup. We have even gotten together a few times for quickies, once while his wife was pregnant. They are seperated now, but not because of this.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few girlfriends, they thought it was funny.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because it was cheating. I knew he was married. I was not thinking about the feelings of my partner or his.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex, life experience.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Guilt.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m more open to different experiences now.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its kinda interesting, I think some of the stories are a little embellished.
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