Current location: U.K.
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)?: 6
How long ago did this hookup happen? Late January 2013
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Almost one-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Knew her since we were kids. Lived on the same street, and occasionally hung out in the same crowd. At university I bumped into her in the street one evening – I’m not usually too forward but I just said, “you look good.” She said, “so do you.” She did. Petite, short haired brunette with blue eyes.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I got her number off a mutual friend and we met at a bar on a Thursday night. Plan was to get a drink or 2 then head home. She wanted to go out in town though. I agreed. We had loads to drink at a bar there then headed to a club. We danced to some bad music and kissed. We soon decided to leave and got a taxi. We got to hers and she asked me to come in. We chatted to her house mate and headed to her room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once there we carried on kissing. I lifted her top off and unhooked her bra. ‘You’ve got really big breasts’ I exclaimed. They were great. She pulled my top off and complemented my hairy chest. I played with and sucked her nipples with her on top of me. She took her jeans off. Her legs were clamped tight around me and she was grinding me. Her face showed how much she wanted me. I flipped her over and heard the worst word in the English language. “No.” She said it was our first date and there was time for this later. I said “sure” and made to ease off then ran my hand down her stomach and into her pants feeling her bush. She said no again with all the self-control she could muster. I let it go. She told me to take my trousers off, she put a t-shirt on and we passed out.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? No
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I didn’t even have a condom with me, so even if she hadn’t stopped me we would have struck out anyway.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Initially wanted a civilized first date with view to a relationship. But ended up just wanting to have a horny fuck.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Shit load of drinks.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went out for lunch three days later. We didn’t address the prior date, the heat had gone. We didn’t catch up again. Saw each other a couple of times out but never really chatted. Kissed drunkenly 6 months later and spoke of taking it slow and getting together. That there was something between us. But I never acted on it.
I fantasized about being with her and fucking her but it just never materialized.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend said after that ill fated date that I just had to be patient and she would trust me.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Fortunately didn’t make it into a non-consensual experience for her.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Regret not getting the chance to be with her and sleep with her for a while.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best- it taught me a lesson. Her boobs were great and the desire was awesome until it stopped.
Worst – I felt shit but she must have felt awful.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? You may wonder why I shared a story where no one took off their underwear. But even though nothing happened a lot of negative emotions and fall out that one night stands can cause came from it.
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