What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 16
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Florence
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Queer
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? A few weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s tall-ish, has blonde hair is fairly handsome and has quite a bit of scarring on his arms but I don’t mind that so much. I didn’t know him too well but we’d been talking, so I knew him enough I guess. We met when I went outside with my friend. He thought I looked like his type of guy so we hit it off. And my feelings? I felt okay enough with him. I like him a lot now and we’re actually dating. We still have hot sex.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A few days after we met, we hung out at my house in my room when my family was gone. We talked a bit over text before that, played truth or dare and got to know each other better. I found out he was a virgin and he found out I was kinky and kind of experience. We didn’t explicitly plan on having sex but we did talk like we were gonna have sex at some point. And we mutually instigated it, I guess? But he asked if he could touch my boob. So I guess him if I had to choose.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first, it was pretty average stuff and I had to guide him a little bit, I showed him where it felt best to be touched and I talked to him A LOT so he knew he was doing okay. But after the initial learning part, it was better than some sex I’ve had with older and more experienced guys. He asked if I “liked it rough” while I was sitting on his lap facing towards him. When I said yes, he put my arms behind my back (mega hot) and fingered me while calling me stuff like a slut, etc. Which gave me the idea he’d watched porn before (he had). He was pretty respectful and asked me how I was feeling all throughout, asked if I was okay and if I wanted to stop when I seemed worked up. Outside of the kinky stuff, he was super sweet. And I felt great. Really great. It ended with us out of breath and cuddling. He asked how he did, I told him what I liked about it and what he could’ve done better.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? For the rest of that day, we hung out with our mutual friend and went into the woods exploring abandoned houses and such. The next day we talked non stop and I got to know him better. I really wanted to date him and apparently, the feeling was mutual because he asked me out a day or two later. And now? Well, we’re dating. So I guess I feel alright about him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? This website and my best friend. My best friend was over the moon.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He asked me how I was doing the entire time and never did anything out of bounds of what I wanted.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He was a little inexperienced
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I used to think I was only into girls.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve had casual sex a few times and experienced both guys and girls and the way they conduct themselves. The few guys I’d slept with before my current boyfriend were inconsiderate, way too old, or just super pushy and weird which led to my belief that guys just weren’t my thing. I think people should clearly establish desires, boundaries, and drawbacks. I told him before that I was likely to cry if I got overwhelmed, which lead to him being more mindful of what he was doing. I think everyone should experience it that way.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s cool. Taking down the stigma around sex is an important step in society.
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