Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Buddhism
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? ten
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? zero
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two months ago
How would you best classify this hookup? FWB/short fling
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was gorgeous, slightly shorter than me, soft brown hair, sweet eyes, lovely smile. I knew about a week’s worth of just texting her, one date with her and her bf, and one date alone. I found her on okcupid, we first met in person at a restaurant. Pre-hookup, I was mesmerized by her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began in her living room. We were cuddling on her couch and I pulled her close to kiss. There was a mutual understanding something could happen, but no actual plans.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first, it was just the two of us kissing, then her bf got handsy with her, then with me, she fingered me for a little bit before going down on me, and he did her from behind. After a bit, he went down on me while she and I made out and she tweaked my nipples. Then he got inside me and I came pretty quickly. He got back to her to get off. The whole time, I was nervous bc it was my first threesome and my first girl/girl experience. She was calm, sensual, and sexy; he was anxious and enthusiastic. Her kisses were amazing and his sex was great, but everything else was just good.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No contraceptives were used. He got off inside her bc she was already preg.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to experience love and sex with another lady.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No drugs, just a tiny taste of alcohol on my part.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterward, we napped a couple hours. I felt accomplished and relieved and completely comfortable with all three of us staying naked. I’m just friends with both of them now. I still miss her kisses and cuddles, but we don’t want to keep up the sexual aspect.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t told anyone about this hookup.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual for all
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: her lips and her moans. Worst: his eating out. Hasn’t changed how I feel about anything except I’m more into women now than I thought I was.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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