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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Around 130
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

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How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Where can I start with this one? I met this woman on Tinder one day in Budapest during the summer. I was bored, swiped away, and we got chatting. We agreed to meet a few hours later; she had just arrived in the city and was waiting for her friends to get there that evening. She turned up, and she looked great. She was tall, slim, had big breasts (30G), and an innocent smile. We ate, grabbed a few beers, and talked about our lives. I should add that I do this kind of thing a lot and most of the time it’s all preamble to having sex. But this wasn’t quite like that. We were really getting to know each other; she was telling me about her life, and we were getting into more in-depth topics that I usually wouldn’t do on a first meet. She told me that she also works as a dominatrix, which completely surprised me and fascinated me. I have hung out with “sex workers” before, but none that I really liked. So, I spent the next few hours asking her so many questions about everything and just got my fill of knowledge.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We kissed on the river in Budapest outside the Parliament building. Then, I innocently walked her towards my apartment. We got in, I fixed her up a drink, and we talked some more. Then, we got into bed and kissed some more.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? This is what was interesting. I know this girl well now, and she is an absolute idealist. She loved things in order and wanted “us” to go a certain way. However, we got into bed, and she was hesitant about taking off some of her clothes because she wanted to wait until we had sex, which is fine. But I could tell she was getting more and more turned on. She goes into the bathroom and comes out bottomless and doesn’t say anything. So we kiss some more, I go down on her, and we have a good time. We start to have sex for a minute or so, but she stops me and tells me she wants it to be perfect.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Good, we messaged each other and met up in another city a few weeks later. We fucked a lot, and even though she’s a dominatrix, she is very submissive to me and enjoys that side of it. She once even tried to fly me to somewhere in Europe to become part of her dominatrix situation. She also told me that she used to be a stripper and took me to a strip club for the first time in my life, and we got a dance together. She’s a good girl, but I have a girlfriend now. She told me just before I got into a relationship that she wanted to have my babies. But she’s a friend now and definitely an amazing person, so full of life and fun to be with.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some of my friends because I had seven women in seven days, so it became a talking point.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got to meet someone I can be friends with for a long time.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we didn’t get to finish the first time

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, she taught me that sexuality is so fluid. This woman is someone who has a small build but knows how to impose herself on a man. She also enjoyed me taking away that power from her. I also thought that I could never really like someone who was a “sex worker,” but I definitely don’t think that now. People are people, and that’s not a deal breaker for me anymore. Considering that my first three girlfriends were virgins, I feel like it was a big hurdle to get over.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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