Current location: London
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty call 🙁
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Rob (not his real name) was known by everyone mainly for all the wrong reasons, which attracted me at first. Obviously his bad reputation I had heard about was true as by the end of the night I found myself in a police cell.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? His sister was in the same year as me and he’d taken interest after seeing me around and managed to get my number. That night he offered to pick me up from a party, I knew he was 19 which was 3 years older than me and made his money from drug dealing but I couldn’t not be impressed when he picked me up in a range rover.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We drove around for a while talking until he stopped the car and we began to kiss, he asked if I wanted to sit in the back because it was ‘easier’ and I went along with it, soon he had taken my clothes off and … Yeah.
When he finished he got back in the front as I shyly put my clothes back on, he was talking on the phone and told me he had to pick his mate up from a club. We hardly talked and the atmosphere was horrible his mate got in after telling me to sit in the back and then they had to pick another friend up, he was going to drop them off then drop me home although he was trying to convince me to sleep round his. Suddenly police surrounded the car! I had no idea what was going on but they handcuffed each of us, saying “you’re being arrested on suspicion of arson with intent of murder” in the police van with the others they could tell I was scared and tried to tell me it was ok but after a 4 hour wait in a police station they did DNA tests ect. and took me in a cell to sleep in. In the morning my mum arrived and was furious but I was let off after the interview and the interviewer told my mum ‘I was in the wrong place at the wrong time’ he also warned my mum about ‘his’ reputation and frequent trouble with police.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had always thought sex was overrated and I’d never had a proper orgasm but with him it was different, so good I couldn’t take it he had to hold my hips down. He lifted my legs up over his shoulders and I was practically screaming.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I was on the pill however we used no other form of protection.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I guess I felt kind of lonely and he felt kind of horny, sadly I knew his reputation as one of his friends described how “he will pick one girl up, fuck her, drop her off and pick up the next one” now I’ve realised this but at the time I tried to convince my self it wasn’t true or that I was ‘different’
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No I hadn’t drunk much at the party.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had had this type before with another guy in his ‘group’ of mates, let’s say this friend was called Ryan. Back then I was naive as Ryan told me all lies about loving me but this time with Rob I knew not to get any feelings and that he most likely didn’t care about me at all. Yet every time he asked to see me I could never say no… I thought maybe he would start to like me. I even snuck him into my house 2 nights after he got arrested with my family sleeping, he slept and left at 6 in the morning before they woke up. A few weeks ago he was drunk on holiday and he was texting me telling me he loved me and that he genuinely cared… I told him he was lying and drunk. We met up a few times when he got back but last time I saw him we haven’t spoken since 🙁
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few of my closest friends only about the first time as if his sister found out she would hate me but also I found out after that a few of my friends had done stuff with rob in the past I felt awful but didn’t want them finding out.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes!!!!!! I was convincing myself that he cared and that I was different but now I see I was just another fuck for him and it hurts so much that feeling of being used for some reason brings down your self worth for yourself.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He gave me the best sex I had ever experienced
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I also found out the first few times I had seen him he lied about not having a girlfriend… I was furious as I hate cheats but didn’t confront him about it.
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