What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 24
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 10
At My Grandparents’ House
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 yeah ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve known her for years, since elementary school. We were not buddies but got along pretty well. I know she had a crush on me in her teenage years but nothing came out of that. We’ve seen each other frequently and always got a long pretty well.
Just before I moved to the UK for one year of university (2012) we made out at a party, but nothing else happened. I shortly considered taking things further but she didn’t respond to that.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was playing a gig with my band at a little wine festival in the area. She arrived pretty late, I think we had already finished playing, she was completely wasted and not easy to talk to. I sort of took care of her, so she didn’t annoy other people that much with no other intentions than that. I thought she had a plan for the night, where to stay over, etc. Turns out she didn’t. I was about to leave pretty late and pretty drunk as well, staying over at my grandparents place. She had no place to sleep, so I took her with me. From then on it sort of blurred.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had missionary sex, I ate her out, it wasn’t good. We were both too wasted to enjoy or perform properly. I think I just fell asleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She was gone when I woke up. My grandpa saw her when she left, offered her breakfast and coffee but it seemed as if she wanted to leave as soon as possible. That’s what he told me. I woke up late and had lunch with my grandparents. My grandmother asked me about her, who she was, what my relation with her was, I didn’t tell her much (she’s very religious). At some point my grandpa (85 and no english speaker) basically stated, “Aha, a one-night stand then…” I thought that was funny. I left their place to get my car from the venue and drove back to my grandparents to pick up some stuff. My grandma already cleaned up the room and found an empty condom cover. I stuck it into my pocket without saying anything further. A few days later my mum asked me about this incident and told me my grandparents were not very amused. I am welcome to bring substantial partners to their place and introduce them properly, but random hookups are not welcome. I agree that it was not a cool move to bring her to my grandparents house. Won’t do it again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I’m not sure / I don’t know
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend knows, I took her with me. I’ve told some friends about the part with my grandparents, since I think it makes a good story. But no details about her, because most people I know, know her as well.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? We were both wasted and I pissed of my grandparents.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had sex?
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The sex?
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If you bring a hookup to your grandparents house, introduce them properly as a potential partner.
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