Current location: Canada
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Hetero-romantic, Asexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1 (this is my first one)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
At the Tennis Court- Doing My Favourite Sport
How long ago did this hookup happen? Aug 24, 2014 (4 days ago)
How would you best classify this hookup? casual, friends with benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a coworker of mine. I think we have the same interests. Maybe that’s one of the reason we like talking to each other. Well, I came to talk to him again one day while he was sitting alone and waiting to go somewhere, and at the end, he asked for my number.
So he texted me, asking what I was doing that night, and I had some plans. So, in the end, we chose to go to the capital pride closing fest.
He’s half Pakistanian and half British, scrawny, 19, around 5′ 3″ -5′ 4″. Whatever, I’m just 4′ 10.5″.
Just knew him for a couple of days. Never hooked up with each other before.
Before the hookup, I thought he was in a relationship, but I guess he actually wasn’t. I think he really likes talking to me. He is kind of cute and cuddly in a romantic way.
I think he is a very funny guy, we have the same interests, esthetically attractive, and wonderful personality.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So, we meet downtown at around 9pm to go to the Capital Pride closing fest. He said he didn’t have time to get his wallet, since he was in a hurry, so he actually has no money on him at the moment. So he just had a grey t-shirt, black pants.
And now we’re at the bar. I’m the only person going to drink, he won’t drink because he says he’s going to drive. At this time, I’ll feel like he’s my friend, not as a coworker anymore. Also, when we were sitting, he was touchy-feely. I also think he was cuddly, and I wanted to makeout with him, but wanted to find the perfect time to ask.
But the capital pride closing fest was very small, and we got bored, and he wanted to smoke. I asked if I can have some, and he said, “you want to get high too? Ok, Let’s go.” So, we left the bar and walked to his car.
At his car, he was trying to find the bud, once he found it, we were driving. He was thinking to himself where we should smoke. While driving, he managed to find a place, which was at a park right at the uOttawa resident campus.
So, it’s around 10:30-11ish, he parked and we walked into the park. Walking deeper into the park, we found a tennis court and we sat at the one furthest to the outside sidewalk. The tennis court is surrounded by a sidewalk, which was opposite to the fence to see other university buildings, and then the sides were residential buildings. It was very quiet, no wind, dim light from a light pole lighting a sidewalk. You could hear his breath so noticeably like you were a newborn baby hearing something for the first time.
He was sitting at my left, and I was sitting at his right. We shared a joint with each other. After we finished that, he looked up at me and he said, “So, how’s it going?” He came closer to me (I did too), and suddenly, our lips began to touch. Our lips touched for one second…
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After that, the tonguing and kissing went faster. He started tonguing me. A lot. Now he left where he was sitting and comes closer, he is now kissing in front of me. His weight pushed me down. He’s on top of me and I was laying down on the ground in the tennis court. I started moaning once or twice.
He kept on tonguing me, I asked if he can use his lips. When he did, I felt our lips were so wet.
We’d just go on and off, the next part he wanted me to turn while we were making out. So now I’m on top, and he grabs my short and felt my butt, he moaned. He touched under my cropped top and grabbed me under my bra and moaned a bit. When I stood up, I can’t believe this was happening. I chuckled and laughed, and we hugged.
Suddenly, we made out again, happily and playfully. He now is more intricate with his moves. Yes, he is a very good hookup-er. When we tongued, he closed his lips and tried to use it to suck and grab my lower lip. It happened again to grab and pull my tongue passionately like that. It was a bliss. At one part, with his clothes on, he thrusted his pelvis to my hip in slow, but hard pounds while on the ground kissing me. Those slow, but heavy pounds touched my clitoris so I felt lots of pleasure while we were doing the outercourse.
We sat up, I was smiling, and the whole time, he looked at me to see how I would react. I liked it. He liked it too, This happened multiple times. But, we started making out again.
Him and I stopped in different periods, holding his weight like in a plank position, but his wrists are resting on top, beside my head, he’s on top looking into both of my eyes and checks up on me. While he does that I would check if people were watching us. We make out again.
Then he would continue, since he was on top of me. I moaned and lowered my cropped top so he can play with my breasts. He lowered my top, lowered my bra, and licked and sucked my breasts. He used teeth here, which I didn’t like, but I did enjoy how much he was enjoying himself.
Then, I wanted him to bite me, so I kept on turning my head to try to show him that I wanted him to bite me. Soon, he actually did, he started from the left part of my neck, he bit me. He bit the front of my throat, that sure left a mark. It hurt for a bit, but that’s what I wanted. Plus that felt really good. Then, he bit the right side of my neck.
Then, he was in the plank position again, caring if I was ok or not. I was looking at his eyes and elsewhere too, to see if there were people looking at us. We tongued passionately. He pulled my left arm and he placed it at the back of his head. He then wanted to untie my shorts, but I said no, and pushed his arms away from my hips at that time.
He sat up now, and I was still lying on the ground, smiling. He tried to untie my shorts, but we didn’t have contraception, plus I was on my period, so we didn’t have vaginal intercourse.
We sat up, I smiled and wiped some saliva off my face. He looked at me, smiling too.
We sat up, hugging each other, laughing and being happy with what has just happened. I asked if we can have sexual intercourse the next time when we’re more prepared than now. He said yes!
I was sitting on him, but not really sure what I was sitting on, since I was on my period. So I asked him what I was sitting on, and he jokingly said, “on my dick.”
I was shy and chuckling since I had an idea. I tried to say it a couple of times, but I chucked out. Then, finally I asked, “Can I suck it?” He smiled and said, sure. So he sat up in this tennis court, pulled down his pants a bit, and took out his cock. He asked I wanted to give oral at the edges of the tennis court, but I said no. I started to touch it. I started rubbing it. It was VERY long, and I didn’t expect it to be that big to be honest. Then I started licking the tip. I got deeper. My head turned to see if anybody was looking at us at the sidewalk. So I continued to suck it. I got deeper with my lips now bouncing up and down with it. I french kissed it, went in different areas, and used my fingers to massage the tip of his penis while I was sucking from beneath the penis. Then I came from the testicle and I slowly licked up to the top of the penis, and slid right back in, and all I heard were moans. And I rubbed it again with my hand. The ejaculation tastes sweet to be honest. At one point, his penis was in my right side of my mouth, and he was moaning very loudly. So when it was over, he stood up and while smiling and talking to me, he tried to put his cock back into his pants. Then I found out those were his work pants. It looked like urban pants that anyone would wear.
We finished. We were very happy.
We packed up our stuff and we walked back to the car together. We were dazed and he offered me a cigarette. I rejected, since I said I have some of my own.
While walking I notice a blond woman walking by. At least she didn’t see us caught in the act.
Now I ask him why don’t you use lips more than tongue while kissing. He went, “Well… I couldn’t help it.” We were still walking to his car, and it looks like we were in a relationship, when we are not.
Just another man walks to the other side of the street, and looks down (random observation).
Then he lit a cigarette in the car, and looked at me with the most poignant face, like he really loved it and is shocked (in a good way) at what just happened. He smoked a bit, about 2 exhales, and threw it out the window because it looked like he cares about second hand smoke.
He turns on music, and we are constantly expressing the fact we loved what just happened. And we drive off.
We stopped somewhere though, he had to make a phone call. Then came back into the car.
Remember, he also forgot his wallet, and found out he has low gas in the car. He even showed this to me. So he needs to drop me off to a place near our house, since he has to have gas to go back home too.
So, we drive, I started to get the effects of being high. Such as being fascinated of a bridge (which is actually my favourite bridge, but that’s a different story). I kept on looking at his hand, etc. We were having fun and laughing with each other.
He played songs, such as asap Rocky, and asking me what’s my fav music genre and artists. I remember that he asked if I know a song. A motorcycle was beside us. Then my friend said, “You don’t know this song?” It looked like we were in a relationship again, but we are not.
When he went to drop me off, we both got off, and found out that the gas station door was closed, so we had to use the button and talk through a window. Then the cashier rejected us for no reason.
At the parking lot, we said goodbye, and he gave me one last tongue in the mouth. He bend down to do it, while I passionately bend my back back to kiss him.
In the end, he goes, “I’ve got your number. We can talk some other time.” We both smiled and I went home. He did too.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both moaned, so yes and yes.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I told him not to have intercourse with me by putting his hand in different places and telling him to not to vaginally penetrate to prevent pregnancy. When he was about to untie my belt to unzip my short, I told him not to because: I was actually having my period and to prevent infections.
Didn’t discuss if he or I has been tested for sti.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I thought he was kinda cute in a cuddly way and I was horny.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I drank one shot of Jagerbomb and we both shared a joint.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were shaking and shocked (in a good way) about what just happened. He even asked me if I am “usually out like that”, meaning if “I’m usually sexual” like that.
After the hookup, I feel that he is sexually attracted to me, and enjoys the hookup we had. I felt like it was an amazing experience.
Yes, we are actively planning to have casual, consented, vaginally penetrative sex in the future.
I feel he is a great, caring friend that respects you as a person.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Not yet, and it’s a secret 🙂
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, I actively wanted to make out with him, was mentally open to other things, and I liked it.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? NO.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing: He is so good at pleasing me.
Worst thing: he used his teeth while sucking my breasts.
This hookup has made me have a new perception of sexuality, as an asexual.
I feel like the view that no sexual attraction=”bad” hook up is a myth. I’ve now realized the fact that sexual attraction doesn’t have to be a “prerequisite” to enjoy a hook up with someone. Face it, sexual attraction is ONLY ONE THING out of many things you can experience when it comes to hooking up.
So, sexual attraction doesn’t have to be the main, or even part of the reason someone wants to have a consented hookup, or even sex, with someone. I’ve learned that there are many more, important prerequisites if you want to hook up, such as respecting the other person’s boundaries, having consent, enjoying it, and orgasm-ing.
Just because I am an asexual, did it mean I enjoy it any less than he did? No! Was I “missing” something? No! I felt so calm, safe, and just as into it as much as he was.
I think the point I am making is that people are different and operate in different ways. Difference does not mean bad.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I’ve always wanted to be on this site… and, I’ve made it 🙂 Hope to do many more hookups in the future.
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