What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Oakland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self employed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? A lot
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

The most awesome night ever

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1992

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One was my boyfriend (current at the time) and the other became my “2nd” boyfriend. So for a while I had two boyfriends. One was a tall Mick Jagger-looking guitar player/tech. The other (new) dude was a tall, blonde, fine ass body hottie. My boyfriend and I started hanging out with this other guy and one night after party one thing led to another. I like them both because they were fucking hot.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So we were kind of just going back to this party, but then we went to back to our apartment. Me, my boyfriend, and the new dude. We’re just kicking it in the living room, before I know it they start kissing me and touching me, and taking my clothes off. It was awesome.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?  They both fucked me and watched as the other fucked me. I sucked their cocks while the other one was fucking me. Kissing me and licking my pussy. It was amazing! I was in love with both of them.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We all fell sleep together in the same bed. That happened a long time ago and I don’t talk to either one of them now but I have fond memories of it

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being loved by two hot and sweet and good in bed boyfriends

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It eventually had to end

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes! That you shouldn’t be close minded because things can happen if you let it

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I think it sucks that women can’t talk about how they feel sexually. Or they’re considered a whore or a bad girl or dirty or whatever if she likes sex. It’s fucking bullshit and these Victorian views need to stop!

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Stop trying to control women sexuality and quit trying suppress it

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? About time

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!