by Newly Single

Gender: Female
Age: 27
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Seattle
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Unemployed
Relationship status: Separated
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One

Back In the Saddle

How long ago did this hookup happen? Ongoing

How would you best classify this hookup? Rebound Fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Andre is a handsome Hispanic man I met while jogging. He is tall, well taller than me which isn’t hard since I am all of five three. He has dark hair and a goatee and light brown skin.  He’s from Brazil and I found his accent sexy. He is also about four years older than me which I found thrilling.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A while back I posted the story of my one night stand (See Cheaters Anonymous) that basically confirmed what I already knew, my marriage was over. I grew up a good Jewish girl from a strict military family and the first time I had sex was on my wedding night. Both of my sisters however cut loose sexually in their college years and after.
My marriage wasn’t always terrible, I liked being an Army wife. We were however unable to have children which drove a wedge between me and my husband. My husband has been having an affair for more than a year and about two months ago I had enough.
After my one night stand I made a decision and packed my things and left my husband. I had him served with divorce papers and went to go stay with my older sister in Seattle. With her reputation I had been expecting a parade of men in and out of her bedroom but she is in a committed long distance relationship with a guy she met in Hawaii.  
I began a process of self reinvention. I cut my hair short, got a tattoo, and changed how I dressed. I wanted to be a different person than the conservative grade school teacher and am even considering a career change.
My sister made it her goal to get me laid, and she set me up with two different guys. The first guy I really liked, but he was looking for a relationship and I am not ready for that. The other guy was looking for just sex, I considered it but what I was seeking was something somewhere in between. I went to a bar a few times and one guy I made out with a bit and let him feel me up a little but it went no further.  
I had also resumed jogging, something I had not done for a few years. I had passed Andre a few times going the other way in the morning and I know he had turned to check me out. One morning he stopped to talk to me and we flirted a bit and went out for dinner. He knew I wasn’t looking for anything serious just some fun.
I have only ever been with two guys and am not very confident sexually, and Andre was very patient with me. He knew it was going to be a bit before he got my clothes off. My sister’s boyfriend came for a visit and one evening I heard them going at it in her bedroom and they are quite loud. Part of me was grossed out a bit but another part of me was turned on.
I decided I had had enough waiting, put some makeup on along with a new bra and thong set I bought at Victoria’s Secret. I knocked on Andre’s door, my intentions clear, I wanted to fuck.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We talked briefly, flirted a bit and started making out and worked our way into his bedroom. He undressed me slowly, kissing my skin as he went. He had a few tattoos on his chest and shoulders which I liked and I sucked his nipples. We made out naked for a bit and he was feeling me and touching me, maybe he played with my breasts a little too long but I am quite stacked.
I began to lick and suck his cock, and he let out a few moans. I had him quite hard when he asked me to stop, rolled me over and then penetrated me.  It felt good to have a man inside me again. He orgasmed just a few minutes later and then fingered me until I did and we both fell asleep soon after.
Next morning I woke up in his arms and we cuddled and talked before fucking again. Just standard missionary and I orgasmed first and he pulled out and came on my stomach. He then had to get to work, showered, kissed me goodbye and told me to stick around as long as I wanted and he wouldn’t mind if I was still in his bed when he got home. He then left and went to work. I showered, grabbed a bite to eat out of his fridge and went home.
Overall I quite enjoyed myself and Andre is  great and attentive lover.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Andre had recently tested clean and I had gotten tested shortly after my arrival in Seattle and was also clean. First time we used a condom, second time we did not but he pulled out.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to and had been looking for it since I left my husband.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Not at all

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Andre and I have hooked up twice since and I am very attracted to him. For now this is just a casual fling with a lot of sex hopefully, if it turns into a relationship or something more serious I think I am ok with that.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My sister who was proud I was back in the saddle, she said it was what I needed since my ex-husband, she also never liked him. She met Andre the other night who found her a little intimidating, but a lot of men do. She has been very protective of me my entire life.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For us both yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Having sex again and having it be great, worst part was when Andre met my sister and she had caught him leaving my bedroom and basically interrogated him. What this hookup has taught me is that it is ok for me to want sex and enjoy it. It also feels good to be wanted by a man again.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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