What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Toronto
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? A few days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was my ex boyfriend. We dated for a year before breaking up a few months ago. We are still on good terms, but we try to give each other space. I was really missing him at the time of our hookup and was horny. We usually have pretty adventurous sex.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He texted me telling me about big family news. Within seconds of talking we agreed to meet up later that night. I picked him up at a bar and we pulled over on a side street to hook up. It was very mutual.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We immediately started making out once I parked the car. Within seconds, my clothes were off and he was fingering me. As he was talking his clothes off I started masturbating while watching him. After he had taken his shirt off, he started to finger my ass as I continued to masturbate. We then started to have sex. We agreed that we should move back to his place, so I started to get dressed. As I was putting my shirt on he started to kiss my butt and slowly start to give me a rim job. After about 15 minutes of this, we went back to his house. Here, I gave him a blow resulting in him cumming on my face.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I have thought about this multiple times this week causing me to immediately get wet. We have started talking again, but I do not want to get back together.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends. They wanted to know what a rim job felt like and if they should partake in the future.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because it brings back old feelings.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was so satisfying.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Remembering that we aren’t dating anymore.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had casual sex, but I do not like it. I would rather have sex with someone I have a connection with.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is amazing. I love how is helps to break stigmas about sex.
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