by Claire

Gender: Female
Age: 32
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Scientist
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 48
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Back to School

How long ago did this hookup happen? 18 months

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? J was a boy who had been around in the periphery of my life for years. We went to the same high school, with him 2 years younger than me. He was friends with my best friends’ brothers and I remember thinking he was cute, even in school. We had been friends with benefits for about 5 months prior to this as we were both single and I had always found him hot. He is tall and skinny, which is my type. We first hooked up after my best friend’s 30th, totally unexpected for me, and he had a gf at the time. But when they broke up, we started seeing each other every second weekend or so (he lived an hour away, where I am originally from).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was Rugby league grand final night which as a football lover, meant a lot for me, less for the small gathering of people where we were drinking and chatting and having fun. I was up the coast, staying at J’s house. I knew it would be the last time I would be seeing him because he had met a girl that he ‘liked’. He was starting to like her and knew he wouldn’t be able to see me anymore so we decided to have ‘one last time’.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We both had gone to the same high school which was only walking distance from J’s house. I enjoy doing random exciting things, so I had told him I wanted to have sex at our old school. After quite a few drinks with the friends, I texted him and told him I wanted to sex him at school. It only took a few minutes before he made an excuse to leave and we headed towards the gates. We walked onto the oval of the school and up onto the metal grandstands on the oval. It was an overcast night and the reflection on the clouds gave a dull glow in the sky. I went down on him with him sitting on the grandstand and me kneeling on the step below. I sat reverse cowboy on him and we had sex like that. Then we heard a noise. It was coming closer. Then we realized it was rain. We could hear it coming towards us. We ran down the stands and ran across the oval like in some cheesy american movie, getting soaked with rain. I was drunk on Grey Goose vodka as a special occasion and he on beers and scotch. We moved through different places in the school and had sex in multiple positions and in areas that had been significant to us. I have to admit feeling a strange sense of entitlement to climb on his lap on the seats that the ‘cool’ school kids used to sit at. The sound of the rain pouring down around us added to the weird fun element of the whole night.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? GAHHHHH…. Although I am generally really good with this, J and I had definite lapses in safe sex. However, we both were only sleeping with each other at the time. I wasn’t on the pill, and due to medical issues, would be unlikely to get randomly pregnant. But still, the grey goose won over grey matter on this occasion.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We had been friends with benefits for a few months and we always had fun sex. I was really sexually attracted to him, despite knowing that we would never be a couple due to totally differing personalities.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Quite a bit of alcohol.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Felt pretty hungover the next day but had snuggles in bed with J. He is a great guy and a good friend and we still remain friends although we haven’t had sex since that night.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told some of my friends about it and they weren’t overly interested ha.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was totally consensual for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. It was a lot of fun and a good way for us to end our friends with benefit relationship, though that was a bit sad.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best part was the adrenalin rush of public sex and running around drunkenly in my school yard where I hadn’t been for over 10 years. There was no worst, although he said no to a few places that I wanted to try because they were ‘too public’.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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