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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? IT Professional
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? two or three

Back seat

How long ago did this hookup happen? 15 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a personal trainer at my local gym. Really nice girl, always smiling and happy, quite beautiful, very fit, etc.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at the gym. I was benching paused reps- hold the bar just above the chest for a few seconds before pressing back up. I was doing this with a broken finger… at the bottom of the rep, she came jamming over and grabbed the bar to spot me… grabbing my broken finger. That hurt. Like. Hell.
She realized what happened and apologized to no end… then we exchanged numbers. We texted a couple times, then she came to my house one evening, with cookies that she had just baked. That right there is a strong second impression!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was still living with my ex-wife, who was hanging out in the living room with her friends… so rather than make something awkward that didn’t need to be awkward, we hung out in the back yard. I have a few old cars, and she was way into them. We sat in one, then she leaned over and kissed me. Clothes were off pretty quickly, as we romped around the back seat. She started giving me oral, which to this day is the second worst oral I’ve ever received, but hey… this beautiful woman was excited to put my dick in her mouth, so I’m not really going to complain. After a few minutes, I pulled her up towards me and returned the favor. This was something I could happily do all night long- she tasted amazing, was absurdly wet, nice and smooth, and way, way into it. She came with an earth-shattering shake and moaning that was bordering on screaming. I didn’t have any condoms, so was pretty much considering the festivities over. Instead, she hopped on my lap, grabbed my dick and slid it in… then ground on me *hard* and fast for a few minutes. She was strong, squeezing with her thighs, and grabbing my shoulders enough that I was bruised and scratched to hell. She had another intense orgasm, with me cumming at the same time. It was like a flood gate was opened. She gushed. This was a first, for me.

Then: Instant nervousness… no condom, no idea if she’s on birth control, no discussion of STDs. this was so not me. I was always safe… but here, I just fucked this girl I barely know with no rubber. That thought passed quickly back to the part where I just got laid really, really well.

This was all in the back seat of my ’55 Plymouth, in my driveway.

Afterward, we hung out in the yard, fired up the grill, had some wine, and had sex again in my workshop later that evening, standing in front of & bent over a workbench.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We hung out a couple days later, again at my place. Had sex in the back yard, grilled food, drank some wine.

Then I found out about her boyfriend. The dude was HUGE. Oh. Great. He was also jealous. Great. Even better. And a competitive bodybuilder who more than dabbled with PEDs. OK, he’s going to kill me.
Luckily nothing ever happened…

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my neighbor, who I’m friends with, who heard/saw a good deal of the first time we hooked up. He wanted her number…

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was way into it, very forward, and the sex was awesome. The sex was probably the best part… I was SORE after.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The stress of not using protection.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at the time. Looking back at it, the experience was awesome. She was very comfortable with her sexuality, and it was a great time overall.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was regularly tested before and after this… all clear. Luckily.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is great. I mean, past the obvious “it’s sex; it feels awesome” part, it’s also freeing. Owning your own sexuality.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great.

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