by Cal

Gender: Male
Age: 31
Location: Portland, OR
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Business
Relationship status: In a Committed Relationship
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17

Bad Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? Three Months

How would you best classify this hookup? One Night Stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Nadia was a gorgeous Hispanic woman, tall with long brown hair and brown skin and in her early twenties. She was a little thinner than I prefer but mostly exactly my type, my last two girlfriends were both Latinas. She had on a rather flattering and tight blue dress. I didn’t know her at all before this, we met at a club.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had just broken up with my girlfriend of seven months a week prior, she had taken a job out of the area without discussing it with me. I was in love with this one so the breakup hurt and I was feeling a little betrayed. My ex had come by for a few things she had left at my place and seeing her ripped it all open again.
My roommates talked me into going to a club. They both thought the best way for me to get over my ex was to get right back on the horse and fuck someone else. My roommates are good people, Dan is a long haul trucker and not around much but it is his house. He is in a long term committed relationship so for him it was a night of drinking and look but don’t touch. My other roommate Leslie is a pretty brunette who says she is bisexual but I have only ever seen her date women. Dan and I talked about it recently, don’t think Leslie has taken a man into her bed since high school.
Dan and I were drinking a bit, Leslie was on the floor dancing and knowing her looking for a hookup of her own. She brought Nadia over to our table and Dan made himself scarce.
Nadia and I started talking, flirting a bit and I bought her a drink. We touched a bit and kissed and I can remember feeling her thigh. She asked if I wanted to go back to her place, but mine was closer so we went there.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Clothes came off quickly, I can remember Nadia had no bra and only a thong on so as soon as I took her dress off her boobs were out. She barley let me touch them and wouldn’t let me lick or suck them at all. Being a boob man this was very hard for me but I went with it.
She asked me to lay back and began to suck my cock. My last girlfriend hadn’t cared for oral so it had been a while and it felt great. Nadia was actually not half bad at it.
She mounted me in cowgirl and tried to ride me but I kept slipping out, her pussy was really tight. She wasn’t that great or really that talkative, she rode me for a while but neither of us could finish something I have found not that uncommon in a one night stand or the first time with someone. We finally gave up about half an hour later, and she asked to stay. Talking to her was like talking to a sack of potatoes at this point, not to be mean but she was either not that smart or high. 
Next morning I awoke for work, Nadia asleep next to me. Don’t get me wrong, she was smoking hot and shaved, like something out of a calendar. I ran my hands over her a bit, kissed her on the cheek and woke her up and told her she needed to go, I had to work. She asked for a shower, gathered up her dress and thong and used my bathroom. We were both a little hung over, and Leslie drove her home.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t discuss it at all, but I did use a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was hurting and on the rebound a bit

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had a few drinks, was a little buzzed but not drunk. Thinking back though to how Nadia was at the club and in the bedroom versus in the morning I feel she may have been on something.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I have seen Nadia around the club a few times, not someone I would care to hook up with again. Still right after this I worked up the nerve to ask a secretary at work out and we have been dating a few months (another Latina, guess I really have a type) so this did get me to move on a bit.
I have no hopes for the future with Nadia, as I said I am not planning to hook up with her again. To top it all off, she has hooked up with Leslie twice in recent weeks (we both like Latinas). I know for sure because I saw her go into Leslie’s room naked very early in the morning. Don’t get me wrong I love Leslie, she’s been a really good friend and she introduced me to both of my last two girlfriends but if she were a guy you would use the term player.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommates both know, both proud of me for getting over my ex.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For me yes and Nadia as well.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? A bit because the sex was so terrible.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Getting over my ex and moving on, worst part was how bad the sex was and Nadia hooking up with Leslie has been weird.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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