What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Banged A Hotwife While Her Husband Watched
How long ago did this hookup happen? 16 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Swingers
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met a couple on a swingers website. They were advertising looking for a male to join them. The husband is in his early 40s (think business casual skater/surfer type), the wife in her late 30s – blonde, 4’11” tall, C-cup breasts, toned body, and a nice round and tight ass. I am pretty open-minded and people have told me I am attractive so I contacted them. The wife got back to me and after a few emails we set a date to meet at a restaurant. I arrived first and waited for them at the bar. It was on a Sunday night and the restaurant they picked was dead. I was nervous but I figured the worse thing that can happen is there is no chemistry and we go our separate ways. When they arrived we exchanged pleasantries and we moved to a booth in the back of the restaurant so we had some privacy. The first thing that struck me when I met them was that this woman was very tiny. I am only 5’8 but she was extremely small next to me – which I love. The second thing that occurred to me during it was I felt like I was almost interviewing for a job. It was this weird dynamic of the husband almost taking the lead in the conversation and he was feeling me out to see if I was a good candidate to fuck his wife. We talked about the usual things you do when you go on a date, its just this was a different kind of date.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After the restaurant, they invited me back to their place which was around the corner (how convenient!). We had a couple more drinks and the wife mentioned something about tomorrow being a workday so if we were gonna do this, we better do it soon. She also dropped a rule that there was to be no fingering of any kind. I found that odd, but obviously you have to be respectful. We moved the party down to their basement tv room where they said they have all their encounters in. Apparently group sex in their own bed is too personal. They laid out some blankets on the floor (I was on the couch at this point) and she came over and started kissing me while her husband was on a separate couch watching things unfold.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As she was kissing me, I kinda moved into a more dominant position but she stopped me and said “oh no, ill be taking control”. Now normally I am in the dominant position – and sometimes I even like a good back and forth dynamic – but being in more of a beta position here threw me for a loop. Do I still get into it or did she just want to dominate some dude in front of her husband? But what was I going to do? Stop the encounter? Not likely. So she undid my pants and took me in her mouth, got me hard with an adequate (but not great) BJ while her husband looked on. I undressed her and she just wanted to fuck. So she laid on the blankets and I guided my hard cock into her. We fucked in missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy, and then missionary again. Throughout the entire encounter, her husband was playing with himself watching his woman getting off. I fucked her hard in missionary to finish things off.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was a fun time but I felt like either the sexual chemistry was off, or we were rushed, or she was just too alpha for my liking. When I was leaving we all said we would keep in touch but I had a feeling it was a one time deal. I haven’t talked to them since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few of my open-minded female friends (one is an ex). They were not surprised by my actions.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best thing was meeting new people, pushing through fears and hangups, and having a new experience.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The worst thing was that I felt once the action got going we were too out of sync to have really mind-blowing sex.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? In a way. I have always preferred to know my partners for more than an hour before I go to bed with them. It gives me a better feeling for who they are and what they would enjoy during a sexual encounter.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think there is a place for casual sex but I also think people go way overboard with it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great site!
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