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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami, Florida
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Office Job
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian but not really following
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I’ve had an experience or two with men and didn’t hate it
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 37
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Bar Bathroom In Miami

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3-4 months

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This woman was Latina but I don’t remember where she was from. Maybe Peru or Venezuela and she had strong features.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I basically talked to this chick in a bar called Blackbird Ordinary in Miami. She had some drinks and was hitting on me so I went for it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I had sex with her in the bathroom cause her mom could track her on some app and she couldn’t go back to my place. It was ridiculous. Her blonde friend told me she was Catholic so I thought I might have an opportunity to hook up but I had no idea it would have happened so fast. I could not believe this girl, it was insane. I basically asked her if she wanted to go back to my place and she said she couldn’t so I suggested the bathroom and she didn’t hesitate for a second. I have never met someone so promiscuous in my life. I know it’s messed up and a double standard but this girl is definitely not marriage material. It was quick and dirty and afterward, I had no interest in keeping in touch with her. If she hooked up with me that fast she is probably as dirty as hell. Glad I wore a rubber cause who knows what she had.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She tried to text me but I wasn’t having it. Can’t respect a girl like that. It was scary how fast she slept with me. Something is wrong with this chick! Also, I do and did have a serious girlfriend at the time and couldn’t risk getting caught.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more desirable, To cheer myself up, Submission / Relinquishing power, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told all my boys. All of them including the guys I was there with. I have the best hookup story of all of them.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I just never did anything like this before. I just got a feeling off of this girl that she wanted it bad so I tried my luck and came up hitting the jackpot. I couldn’t believe it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that I don’t have to see her again and it makes for a great story to tell my friends.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She was seriously loose. It was like sticking a hot dog in a warm bucket of water. Surprised I even busted.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? After dealing with this girl who really kind of initiated it, I realize that I don’t want to do that anymore. Even though it makes for a good story she made me feel dirty and kind of sad for her. She must have some issues to hook up with a dude she doesn’t even know in a bathroom in a bar.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I don’t mean to keep calling this girl out but damn bro she is gonna end up in a bad situation if she hasn’t already. It was like she didn’t know that what she was doing was wild and crazy and that it just happens all the time. It was the freak-nastiest experience in my life.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t mind it but it has to be more courting than just that. I could never respect or date a girl that would sleep with someone that quickly.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good project and the reason I am writing is to warn other people that hooking up with random people can be really negative.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!