by Cecelia Tallis


Gender: Female
Age: 31
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Oregon
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: Unemployed
Relationship status: Open marriage
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3

Bartender Booty Call

How long ago did this hookup happen? One week ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have posted previously about my first two times hooking up with this bartender. I had thought after the last time, I wouldn’t hook up with him again. He has some frustrating/confusing habits that I’m not particularly fond of, but I still had his number.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had been drinking some wine and started drunk texting random friends. I ended up texting lyrics to bartender that describe bending over and shaking your ass. He rarely replies to my texts so I wasn’t expecting anything. Very quickly he responded with “mmmm. You should come over and show me that move in person” I replied “I would but I’ve been drinking” 
He responded with saying I should sober up and come over. I told him to give me an hour. My husband and I had just put the kids to bed, and I had already been planning to give my husband a blowjob. So I went down on my husband which led to us having sex. Then I showered and got ready and drove 45 minutes to bartender’s new apartment

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I got to his place and he poured me a glass of wine. We did some small talk, then we went to his bedroom and after he tried to hook up a small tv (not sure why he was doing that while I was there). He gave up on that then came over to his bed where I was sitting and began kissing me. I wanted to get on top, so he laid down and I pulled his clothes off, I went down on him for a few minutes, to which he responded “oh my god, that mouth.” 
Then we kissed as I got on top and started riding him. He played with my clit while I was grinding on him. It was amazing. He was breathing heavily pretty quick, and as he got closer to climaxing, he was desperately trying to keep from moaning/screaming (his brother was in the room next door) and eventually grabbed a pillow to scream into. I kept going for a little bit after he came. Then we laid on his bed for a few.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did not. He did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I’m on birth control and we used a condom

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Wanted to be on top this time

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Some alcohol

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I got dressed and he walked me to my car. During sex he had said he never thought we’d have sex the first time, let alone a second and third time and that he hoped for a fourth, fifth and so on. I felt pretty good about it and drove home, then had sex with my husband again. I didn’t text him for almost a week, and I tried setting up another get together but he still hasn’t responded which is typical of him. It’s really irritating and makes him a poor fuck buddy.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Husband and a couple of friends.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes for both

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. I feel great about it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Making him scream into a pillow was the best. Him being a douche about texting is the worst, and out of three times I’ve been with him, I’ve yet to orgasm.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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