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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York, NY
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Actor
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 500+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Bathhouse Spitroast

How long ago did this hookup happen? A few days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One was in his 50s — white, tall, slim, very well hung — and the other was in his 40s, also white, fit, and well hung. We all met at a bathhouse in Fort Lauderdale.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had played with both men individually at this bathhouse — I gave them both blowjobs. I later encountered both of them in a play space in the bathhouse. All three of us started spontaneously having sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Very little was said — after fellating the taller gentleman, I turned around and bent over a padded bench. He started penetrating me anally. As he was doing this, the other man stood in front of me, allowing me to fellate him. Both were respectful and gentle in an otherwise highly charged encounter.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After some time we took a break — I later encountered the taller man again, and we had another round of both anal and oral sex. I don’t imagine I’ll ever see either person again, as I’m only here in Florida for the week. The sex was memorable.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It’s perhaps my favorite sexual scenario and I don’t get to experience it that often.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nobody orgasmed – ideally I’d love to have both men orgasm in or on me.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was wholly satisfying.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have frequent casual sex and am not ashamed of it — I would like to be able to speak more freely about my sexual experience without judgement.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This forum is helpful in being able to share our experiences — where we cannot share them elsewhere.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!