by b.p. camden
What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? england
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? university student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50/55
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none so far
Beautiful Bearded Man
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? he was beautiful, pale skin, dark thick curly hair, dark beard and ethereal blue eyes. The epitome of the tumblr and lumberjack aesthetic. I didn’t really know him that well to start off with, i had literally invited him over after a short yet brief conversation. We met on tinder, I thought he was attractive but was weary as his attraction and blunt sassiness made him appear kind of douchey so i was rather distrusting.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? it began with a tinder moment, he was looking for someone to come see him and i replied with that emoji of a girl with her hand up in the air. I thought what have i got to lose, to my surprise he replied. Not much planning was involved. we agreed he should come to my place as thats where i felt most comfortable, it was my first time actually instigating a sexual encounter.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started off very slow, I instantly knew i wanted to have sex with him, his kiss took my breath away. I think at one point I did give him oral, I was always nervous when I gave someone oral because I never thought I was any good. There was a lot of foreplay, his fingers made me quivers. He really know how to use his hands. His behaviour was quite positive, I was nervous as he was so beautiful and I myself in that time questioned why he was even sexually interested.
He was one of the very few people to make me orgasm so much, vaginal sex was for once amazing. we kept eye contact during which got me even more riled up, it was amazing. he knew exactly what to do, he was a very good lover. It ended with us both orgasming as far as I was aware, it was euphoric.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We spoke a little then he left, I didn’t have many expectations for this first hookup as I was used to one night stands and no contact after. However it turned into use having sex for around three months, I guess it was an escape for us both. I don’t feel very much towards them, he was really sweet but we have our own paths now and i don’t think they will cross again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? my housemates, they said he was attractive.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the fact it was one of the first times i felt good after sex, i found it hard to enjoy sex before it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? the fact it didn’t happen sooner.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it turned into continuous hookups and just made me feel my sexuality a lot more. It made me enjoy sex again after a long time.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? it only led to better sexual experiences.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? casual sex has made up a large part of my young adult life, I was never compelled towards monogamy.My first times wasn’t that to be appreciated generic societal norms. on a whole there is a large stigma towards casual sex, mainly concerning females who engage in casual sex. promiscuity doesn’t appear to be very lady like but as we grow as a society we see casual sex is more prominent, especially with the ease of social dating apps. It does have an avid role in society as its a well debated topic, for me casual sex will continue to be my life as i’ve never yearned for one partner but multiple. it has helped me discover who i am whether good or bad.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think the casual sex project is amazing, the collaboration side of it means everyone gets in insight into casual sex on a broader scale, no matter what gender, age, identity or situation so its merely learning through sharing. which i think is difficult with how closed minded people can be.
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