What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 77
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? engineer/professor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We were at a club planning to have some fun with another couple. We met a very nice couple. She was beautiful and fun to talk with. He was good-looking and articulate, but not overbearing. We were all immediately attracted to each other, so it didn’t take more than an hour’s conversation before we agreed to retire to a room for a hookup.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was no more planning than in any other swinging meeting. It’s had to say who first suggested that we retire to a room, but I think I did. It’s unlikely that my wife would start it, and the other guy was pretty quiet. I distinctly remember being very sure that I wanted sex with this lovely creature, so it was probably I who lead the way. Anyway, there was no hesitation for the other three.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The other guy was an epidemiologist who seems fearful of bugs that might be in the room. He spread his own sheet on his bed. His wife and I got on the other bed with no such precautions. I don’t remember much about what happened on the other bed as I was so entranced with the attractiveness of this woman. Her breasts were magnificent. The rest of her body was primo. We cuddled and kissed and stroked each other. I gave her my usual full body massage, head to foot with short stops in between. After a while, I moved to her genitals and licked, kissed, pinched and otherwise loved them. I got her off by hand rather quickly. After a few minutes of recovery time, she started to stroke me until I got hard. I was ready for intercourse, but as I started to get on top of her, she stopped me and said that she wanted me to come between her breasts. What a lovely idea that was! It was my first time doing it that way, so I was more than agreeable. It was a beautiful experience, the slipping between her magnificent mounds. I could look directly at her face and see the delight, as I am sure she could see the same on mine. Eventually, I came on her upper chest with quite a load. Surprisingly, she spread it around her chest and breasts with her hands, seeming to relish the slipperiness and warmth. Shortly after, the two women went to clean up, and she told my wife how much she liked to have cum on her skin. It was what made her skin so soft, she said. Considering how lovely her skin was, I can only imagine that did this pretty often!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was still on cloud nine the next couple of days from that unique experience. We never saw them again, for which I am a bit sorry. We had repeat encounters with only about half of all our swing partners. This was the rare couple that we saw only once who I wished we could see again. Other times, when we saw a couple only once, it was because there was not enough chemistry or fun to warrant a second meeting.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only my wife. As usual, it was a neutral reaction. She was glad I had a good time, and as it happened, I had a better time than she did at this meeting.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? A different sexual experience. But that is pretty much what we found out form years of swinging: different people do it different ways, and we usually learned something new from each encounter.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The was NO down-side!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? NO
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? W are supportive for those who can do it without negative consequences. It’s fun and entertaining and educational and quite natural.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great project. It’s about time somebody did a careful study, considering how much casual sex goes on and how little is really known and understood about it and its consequences.
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