Current location: Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Beautiful Casual Hookup With Tattooed Punk
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, lean, with a mohawk, facial piercings, and with an amazing tattoo completely covering his back from neck to ankles. Cheeky grin, warm eyes. Met through Tinder. I was quite nervous, I thought he’d be a tough guy…
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was a Friday, and I had been at a work Christmas party which was a complete let-down – all finished by 7pm and everyone sensible and sober. I had come out of a difficult long term relationship a few weeks before and was feeling very lonely, and was looking forward to a good party to distract me, so was a bit disappointed. I had just started using Tinder a few days before, and was pretty nervous about the idea of casual sex – frightened of being made to feel used. Anyway, I logged on and matched with this guy… I felt strong attraction as soon as I saw his picture, he was just gorgeous. We started chatting, he was just in the city for the weekend for a wedding, and wanted to go out and explore but his friends were behaving so they’d be well rested for the wedding. He wanted someone to go out for a drink with, and was staying nearby, so asked if I was keen. It was almost midnight and I was nervous but he seemed kind of goofy and it sounded fun, so I said I’d show him a few good bars.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went out drinking until everything closed. He was funny, slightly awkward but laid back, and wasn’t trying to hit on me – genuinely enjoying chatting and hanging out. We hit it off and had a great time. He was surprisingly shy about making a move, but eventually kissed me and oh my god it was electric. We spent about half an hour slowly making out in the corner of a beer garden, it was very sexy. We walked back to my place, which was difficult, because we stopped every few meters to make out… He loved kissing and couldn’t keep his hands off my ass. When we got to mine, he undressed me slowly, and I ran my hands all over his beautiful tatts. I went down on him a little, but he was impatient to get to me, and pushed me on the bed and went down on me until I came. It was amazing. We had sex for a bit, but were both quite tired and drunk so fell asleep for a while… I woke up later when he bit me on the ass, and I rode him – he felt so great – until he made me straddle his face while he brought me to orgasm with his tongue again… It was so sexy. We then lay sideways on the bed and he entered me, and we had sex until he came. We cuddled for a while – his hands seemed to just love my body – and I went down on him until he came in my mouth.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, I had many, he had two. I’m not sure if it was the alcohol or if he was trying to hold back for my pleasure, but he seemed to take a long time to come.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None, we were silly… I hadn’t really expected anything to happen. He pulled out before ejaculation. I wasn’t on the pill, so as a precaution I took the morning after pill the next day. We discussed STI history by the t a few days later – he was nice about it. We were both clean.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was lonely, and my previous relationship had no physical affection at all for over eight months (for his medical reasons)… I wanted to get out and meet people, and to enjoy some fun and affection without the stress of a relationship. I also wanted to feel desired again.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol. More for him than for me (I think he’d been partying since early afternoon), but not enough on either side to affect decisions.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was worried he’d wake up sober, just get dressed and leave as fast as he could… But we cuddled, talked, and had sex again. Even while getting dressed to go he kept coming back to bed to kiss… He was so affectionate and seemed reluctant to leave. I was pretty smitten, he was such a sweet, warm and gentle guy. I couldn’t stop thinking about him for days – but knew it was just a casual thing and avoided the urge to message him, and it passed eventually. We’ve kept in touch and chat over tinder briefly every few weeks (his instigation), he’s super sweet, and we’ve agreed to meet again next time he’s in town. No potential for anything serious.
I was so surprised at how positive the whole experience was, it was like a beautiful dream. I felt a bit conflicted the next day… Feelings like casual sex was wrong and I was dirty and cheap for doing it (crazy, because I’m well educated and intelligent and don’t consciously believe that), but he was so respectful and we had such a nice time together, so I managed to fight those feelings off. His attitude went a long way to helping me feel OK about it, and I have huge respect for him for that. I feel empowered, and a bit angry at the way some social messages work so hard to ‘protect’ me from what actually seems to be a very healthy, positive and beautiful way to connect with someone.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I spoke to a few close friends, with mixed reactions… One called me a slut outright, which was upsetting and made me miserable and self loathing for a day or so… Others were amused/positive. My housemate in particular was very positive, and she discussed a lot of feminist theory on casual sex, which really helped me to better understand my own views and experience.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, absolutely for both of us.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not even remotely.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing: his attitude – meeting him, getting to know him, and sharing something intimate… The trust and respect. Also orgasms!
Worst thing: a friend calling me a slut.
How it has changed my views: I feel more convinced than ever that casual sex is a very important and empowering experience. I also feel more positive about my body.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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