by Elizabeth


Gender: Female
Race/ethnicity: English
Current location: London
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Photographer
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 22
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Beautiful & Sweet French Boy Broke 5 Month Dry Spell

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 Months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was living in Cape Town for a few months last year after coming out of a relationship with another french boy and despite hooking up with one other boy in South Africa (who I really liked) since my break up, somehow I hadn’t gone all the way with anyone for five months. As quite a highly sexed person I was beginning to go a bit mad and one night met this absolutely beautiful guy working at a new bar that had just opened in town. Normally I wouldn’t have been that interested as I don’t usually find myself attracted to conventionally beautiful men, especially younger guys. Anyway within 10 minutes of making eye contact we were chatting, like me he had travelled and had only been in Cape Town for ten days, the fact we were both European fish slightly out of water definitely gave us something to talk about. I stayed at the bar til close and he came to speak to me whenever he had the chance, by the end of that first night he was giving me shoulder massages! The next day I felt it must have been the wine that made me think he was especially interested in me, so the following night I went back with another friend and arranged to go out together a few days later when I would be having leaving drinks..On his insistence I arranged the first part of the night at his bar and took his number, so that we could let him know where we were when he’d finished work. I was having so much fun I nearly forgot about him, but true to his word he rung when he finished work and came to join us.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We found him in another bar and pretty much as I sat down next to him we began kissing, in front of everyone, not giving a shit. After some time our friend drove us back to mine and I invited him to stay. When we got into the house he asked if we could go into the garden to look at the stars, he pounced on me, kissing and quite frantically pulling my shorts off, stroking my clit I then led him into my room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We took each others clothes off, kissing as we went, he pushed me on the bed and straightaway started giving me amazing oral (first I’d had in six months!) while he sucked on my clit he slipped a finger gently into my ass, normally I’d feel uncomfortable with a guy going anywhere near there straight away, but he seemed really into it so made me feel very comfortable and we were both extremely drunk. After some time I pulled him on top of me and we went at it in missionary then we switched around with me on top, at which point he got irritated with the condom and took it off, again, being so drunk and up for it, I thought fuck it! Literally.. Eventually he had me on my front and with some help from my fingers I had an amazing orgasm. The first time I’ve ever cum with a one night stand. He kept asking me to suck him off, but as my previous partner had been so selfish about oral when we were together, this poor guy got the brunt of my resentment toward my ex carried over and I made our sex all about me.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did, he didn’t.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condom which he took off, morning after pill, he swore he was clean but I got tested soon after.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Pure lust! I was horny as hell, he was absolutely beautiful.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Lots of beer, no drugs.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning was kind of funny, my ex (a different one) had to pick me up to go to home affairs to sort out some visa stuff and Frenchie being new to Cape Town didn’t know where the hell he was, so we had to give him a ride..Everyone was cool about it though..Initially I felt amazing, but that evening I went to the bar to say a quick goodbye as I was flying back to London the following day,  but he’d had very little sleep so was a bit despondent. Not being big on one night stands, that left me feeling a bit shit as I didn’t think I’d see or hear from him again and that felt unnatural to me. A month or two later we found one another on Facebook, got chatting and he ended up moving into the room I’d been staying in for a few weeks, I returned to Cape Town two months later and I saw him again once briefly with friends, we texted one another occasionally, but I don’t think there was any question of going there again, I was very attracted to him, but he is young and I’d just started seeing someone back in London, albeit a casual thing. I was also really into someone else (the first boy I’d hooked up with after my break up) in Cape Town. We’re still in touch to this day and if I’m in Paris anytime I’ll definitely try meet up with him for a drink.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends in Cape Town, and bizarrely my ex. They were very happy for me/thought it was funny.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Totally consensual

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing was how empowered I felt, meeting someone not only physically very attractive but he was also genuinely a really lovely person, I made it clear I wanted to sleep with him and did without it being weird or awkward or feeling like I needed more. The worst was letting him take the condom off and going with it at the time, then worrying about having caught and passed something when I hooked up with someone else a few weeks later and their doc had told him he might have recently caught an STD. Thankfully we were given the all clear and I didn’t have to make that call..!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? This experience fortified my already healthy attitude towards casual relations and made me feel differently about one night stands, which have in the past been mostly regrettable..I also felt sexually empowered as a woman who went into this knowing what I wanted and getting it, which is predominantly how men work when it comes to casual sex, in my experience. That does not mean however I get off in any way in that he didn’t have an orgasm, as to see someone I like experiencing pleasure is as enjoyable to me as receiving it, But as someone who has great difficulty reaching orgasm in sex, I was kind of overjoyed how easy and pleasurable it all was on this occasion.

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