What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Camp Counselor
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 22
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Behind the Scenes of a Summer Camp
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a 5’8 Korean man. Shoulder length black hair. He’s an avid climber, complete with lean roping muscles and smooth tan skin. We met at work, a summer job I am working. We were work friends, he was also a friend of my brother. Before the hookup I was attracted to his body, but not necessarily his personality.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Before the hookup, I was helping him belay kids and set routes on a rock wall. We drove back to where my car was parked on a mountainside turnout near my home. We began talking about drugs and he offered a blunt to me in the car. I lost a little bit of my inhibitions and asked him if he wanted to makeout. I climbed onto his lap in the front seat of his truck. It was midday and the turnout was a little busy, but we didn’t notice all the people pulling in and out.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Straddling his lap in the front seat, he took hold of my hips and ground me into his lap. I kissed and sucked on his neck and chest, enjoying the saltiness of his skin from a day of climbing. It was exhilarating to sleep with a coworker while on the clock. Especially because this was totally spontaneous, we had not so much as even flirted before. He lifted up my shirt and sucked on my nipples for a bit. I decided at that point that we needed more privacy, so I suggested we drive up the road to a secluded spot. Back on a dirt road we moved to the covered bed of his truck, laying on harnesses and ropes as we tried to take our clothes off. Things sped up after I asked if he had a condom. He put on on and began to have vaginal sex with me. It was pretty standard, I did get to try out some of my more flexibility intensive positions. He came with me on top. After we laid in our own sweat, panting. We talked about how hot for each other we had been during the course of the summer. When the sun set he drove me back to my car.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup I felt great, extremely satisfied considering I had not had sex in a month. I was still hiring and craving more the next day. I was heading back home in a week, so I was hoping he would sleep with me every day until I left.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend and previous coworker. She thought it sounded fun.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I realized that weekend that I was not all that attracted to him and I didn’t want to sleep with him the rest of that week. I wish I picked a lover I was more attracted to.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The risk and spontaneity of it was so hot.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t have an orgasm.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am very open to casual sex. In my experience, men do not initiate casual sex, so I have become more confident by initiating it myself in most circumstances. I’ve gotten used to occasional rejection, which has made me a stronger person at my job and at my university. Women should take the lead more in their sex lives and get what they want.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? As a statistics major, I am in love with this idea. Data on the taboo is so fascinating to me, and this is a great way to gather a self-selecting sample.
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