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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Accountant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
His best attribute was his looks.
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s ridiculously good looking. I’m not even exaggerating, he models. Tall, dark and handsome with amazing teeth(it’s very important!) and fabulous hair.
I’m not so bad myself, petite, toned, blonde, blue eyes. Never had any trouble getting guys attention.
He’s a little younger than me but I’m often stil ID’d for everything so wasn’t a problem.
Never met in person before this night. Met through social media.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Met on Facebook. No mutual friends. I have a public profile which is run by myself and my manager(for obvious reasons I can’t explain too much who I am.)
We ended up chatting through SnapChat, small talk. Nothing too interesting if I’m perfectly honest.
He made it clear that he found me attractive. I’m married, which he knew, so I made that perfectly clear too.
Messaging one day, I replied that he must know he’s good looking and will find the perfect girl one day as he could have anyone he wanted. He said he didn’t want just anyone. Somewhere in the conversation I ended up saying, “I’ve never cheated before, but I’d be tempted to with you.” Total lie. I have cheated before but wondered what he’d say.
Few flirty messages followed over the next weeks.
I was visiting friends and had a hotel booked. Discovered it was quite local to him so agreed to hook up.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He met me at my hotel quite late as I’d been out with friends. I had drank a few cocktails and glasses of wine so I realised I needed to sober up a little. This meant I had to chat with him for a couple of hours. Pretending to be interested about him and his life I hoped I was convincing.
I’ve mentioned he’s ridiculously good looking. That’s it. He isn’t very smart. But I didn’t care as that isn’t why he was in the hotel room with me!
Finally we got undressed and into bed. Secretly hoped he had a huge cock. He didn’t. It wasn’t small but not as big as my husband. I soon realised that he wasn’t experienced. Huge let down. Expected a guy this age and this attractive would be incredibly experienced. He then tells me he hasn’t had sex for over a year… Say what?!?!
Communication is key. But after reeling off a million things asking what he’s done before and what he’s into. I was exasperated. Boiled down to missionary and not much else. He got nervous. He couldn’t even undo my bra. What guy can’t do that?!
I gave him a handjob for a while to relax him. I’d bought lube with me. Something else he’d never tried. I couldn’t give it my best though as he kept nearly cuming when I got into it. I told him he couldn’t cum until I wanted him to.
I then asked him to play with me. I pushed him down to eat my pussy. Clueless. He had no idea. I wanted to cry. It’s something I love. No problem I thought. How about fingering, can’t go too wrong with that. I told him what I like- building up to a lot of fingers, hard, fast. I let him know I was into fisting and squirting but he seemed to panic at that thought. My moaning and wetness seemed to make him work harder so I came off that, which was great.
I’m quite demanding. I love lots of foreplay and expect to cum a few times.
Now down to the sex. I went on top for a bit as I like to be in control. This still requires you both to get into a rhythm together etc but he wasn’t matching me at all.
I love doggy but he said he’d never done it before, he didn’t think he’d be any good or know what to do.
By now it had been an hour. So I asked him how he’d be comfortable cumming. He said on top. I was disappointed but agreed.
What happened next really caught me off guard. As soon as he had me on my back he showed some aggression and passion! He fucked me so hard and fast…it was amazing and what I’d been waiting for the entire time! He was kissing and nibbling my neck and ear. Telling me how naughty and dirty I am. Making me admit how bad I am, how much I liked it. To finish he made me beg him to cum in me. Which, after I came really hard, he did. I was pleasantly surprised I liked this as I am always the dominant one.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards I just showered then slept. I’m like a guy. I’m not interested after sex. I get tired and I’m done. It was very late so he asked to stay as he had work early in the morning. I let him but told him not to disturb me as he was getting up and leaving at 6 and I wasn’t checking out until 1pm.
He asked to cuddle me or at least put an arm on me but I said no.
I have no hopes or expectations for the future.
He said he wanted to make it a regular thing, even if it’s just once every month or two if I’m free and want him. I said I wasn’t going to promise anything.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just a male friend who never judges me. He got excited at the tale(I knew he would.)
I’d told him what I was doing and who with for safety reasons before the hook up.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The naughtiness of going behind my husbands and friends backs.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I told him to bring condoms. I’m not on any birth control as I’d been trying for a baby and I don’t fancy an STI.
I was very angry that he didn’t. Apparently never bought them before. We discussed history and testing. I wasn’t going to let him penetrate me but I stupidly did. I’m old enough to know better.
I knew I wouldn’t get pregnant as I was due my period on the day. But obviously he didn’t know that. I joked I’d contact him in 9 months time, but he still was willing.
I went to a clinic and took a morning after pill for peace of mind and got tested. All clear. Wouldn’t be that stupid again. Long 2 weeks awaiting results and used condoms with my husband. I had to tell him I want a break from the baby plans.
To make matters worse, when I was packing the next day I discovered condoms the previous occupants had left behind!
I’ve told him none of this.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I know I should feel guilty but I don’t at all. Maybe I will a little in future as I have done before.
My husband cheats from time to time. Unfortunately for him I can tell and it amuses me he isn’t as good at covering it up. I’ve only called him out on it a few times. Perhaps he secretly knows about me too?
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have never found anything wrong with casual sex. As long as it is done safely(hypocrite in this scenario.) I’m very experienced and experimental.
I have never met anybody who comes close to my husband. We are so compatible and the sex is amazing. Only a good thing. Makes me wonder why I bother with others. I think it’s just my incredibly high sex drive that my husband cannot keep up with.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very interesting. It’s been great to share this story and get it off my chest. I hope others will like it and/ or take inspiration.
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