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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Best Business Trip of My Life

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 years

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a beautiful Southeast Asian woman, about 25 years old at the time. Very nice slender build – 5’3″ and about 100 lbs. I knew her well as a coworker and I had always been attracted to her since the first time i saw her when she was an intern at my office.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were sent on a business trip together to one of our other offices in the Northeast. At dinner the first night there, she noticed that I was occasionally grabbing my neck. I had been in a car accident a few months prior and my neck was still bothering me. After dinner, she invited me to her hotel room so she could massage my neck. I believe she instigated the whole thing, although she never admitted it. I was the first one to kiss her the day after the massage when she came to visit me in my hotel room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She was far and away the most satisfying sexual partner of my life. We started off by making out on the bed in my hotel room, and eventually progressed into oral sex on each other. Her pussy wasn’t shaved at all, which is usually a turnoff for me; however, the taste and feel was excellent. She started off by lowering herself onto my cock and riding it. We didn’t use any protection because this was not pre-planned and we didn’t have anything with us. That just made everything feel that much better. She warned me not to cum inside her as soon as my cock went in since she wasn’t on any kind of birth control. We tried multiple positions in our first session, eventually finishing with doggy style. I complied with her instructions and pulled out at the last possible second, covering her back with a huge load.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt 100% satisfied the next day, with maybe just a twinge of guilt since both of us were in relationships at the time. At the time, I think we both hoped that eventually, we could be in a relationship with each other. We had sex for the remainder of the week multiple times per night and she even gave me road head on the way home from the airport! We are both married to different people now, despite the fact that we had ongoing casual sex for 4 or 5 years following the first hookup.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned this hookup only to close friends. They were happy for me since they knew about my prior attraction to her.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I think the level of satisfaction that came from closing the deal with a coworker after months of pent up sexual desire in the office.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we are not in a position to do this more.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me more open to casual relationships and more aware of the benefits of casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would actually like to see more openness about casual sex. In this particular case, we maintained a casual relationship for many years and I think it provided both of us with an escape from our current relationships.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it!

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