What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status?
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? a month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s tall, dark skin. We met at university and we became best friends. Last year he told me that he was in love with me and we started dating, became a couple. But 4 months ago we broke up but decided to keep our friendship. We still are best friends.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We made a travel last month, shared a room. The last night we had a pillow war and he started to hug, touch me and smack my ass. I wanted to leave but he held me and kissed me. I hit him but he kissed me again and I let him.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed each other, touched every part of each other’s body. He gave me oral sex and fingered me until I came. I also masturbated him. There was no penetration. It was so exciting. It just ended in a casual way, we didn’t talk about it until a week later when I asked him what was going on.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked as if nothing happened, until a week later. We decided to keep our friendship, we love each other as friends. But there’s still sexual attraction. We decided to have just sexual relations, just the pleasure.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To some friends. They accepted it
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was fun
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It just happened, without planning and after our break up.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? yes
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I see it as something positive, and more if your partner is someone you trust
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting to read other people’s experiences
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