What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Singapore
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Surprise
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is pale, tall, and quiet. We knew each other for 8 years. We knew what we were, I ever asked him. He never obliged, but we carry on hanging out watching movies.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? In my room. Over the years, I suggested intercourse a few times and would throw in the occasional sex joke. On my end, I never expected since he was straight. Nonetheless I asked.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We only did oral stuff. Nothing really fanciful or fantasy like. I licked his balls and sucked him good. His hands were grabbing onto my head while I blew him. It took quite a long for him to cum. At the end we cuddled for quite a while.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Things turn bad, we haven’t spoken since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Depression Meds
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? A little bit
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? Gave a yes
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? Don’t really know
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Spontaniety
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The silence
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Some people are more open to morning sex.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? People may not need to condone, but be acceptant with open arms.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A good place to vent
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