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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Brazil
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Editor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Over 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was pretty, a femme lesbian, short and with long dark hair. We had dated before but it didn’t work out, so we decided to be friends. We had sex from time to time. I was in love with her but it was one sided.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had hooked up before, had some drinks and made out heavily.
She called me and arranged a meeting, we would go to a motel and fuck.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started kissing and humping each other, then slowly removing our clothes and she straddled me. We kept at it for some time, we tribbed each other, with her still on top until she came hard. I turned her over and kissed her back and fondled her butt, then I licked and sucked on her breasts, coming up to kiss her and moved down her body. We were both dripping wet and so horny… I licked her belly, her thighs, then spread her legs and began licking her vaginal lips, sucking her cunt, tongue fucking her then sucking and licking her clitoris until she managed to come. I felt very aroused and almost had an orgasm doing it to her.
Then we embraced and she masturbated me until I had a couple of orgasms. We kept kissing while I masturbated her in turn, it was making her aroused. I inserted two fingers and moved them slowly at first, then more vigorously the wetter she was getting. She was very vocal all the time and I made her come when I curled my fingers inside her and thrusted a bit more. We rested a bit then took a shower together.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kissed some more and went out to spend some time at the mall.
I was happy and wanted to see her again. I was in love.
We had a falling out later and never hooked up again.
She is married to a woman and we are still friends, talking sometimes.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To a couple of friends. They knew of my feelings for this woman.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Seeing her come and the great chemistry we had.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was the last time we hooked up.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I didn’t sleep with anyone else for a while after that afraid of getting attached.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish free love was a reality. I am becoming more liberated as older I get and see no problem with hooking up with no strings attached. I just wish people were less conservative.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great outlet and source for info on human sexuality and sexual behaviour.
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