What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? T was tall, dusky skinned, lean build. He wore glasses and was dressed simply but looked good. He had a quiet confidence about him that I was very attracted to. I had just started using Tinder again after a series of lousy dates. I was horny the minute I saw him in person and knew I wanted to sleep with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were having drinks at a bar near his place and getting tipsy. He asked me what my plans were and I suggested we go to his place. He ordered an uber and we were at his apartment in a few minutes.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I hadn’t had sex in a while so I was looking forward to this. I was also sexually inexperienced. I lost my virginity not too long ago and I had slept with 3 guys before over the last year but none of them were good. The alcohol gave me some confidence.
T was far more drunk than I was. We kissed for a bit and then he pushed me on his bed and yanked my pants and underwear off. He pulled me to the edge of the bed where he was kneeling and went down on me. His tongue flickered and sucked on my clit over and over for ten minutes, then he inserted two fingers into me and started stroking while continuing to lick my clit. He brought me to orgasm twice before taking his pants off and teasing my clit with his huge cock. He was well hung and the biggest I’d seen at that point. He rubbed his hard cock over and over on my clit till I begged him to put it in. He climbed on top of me, pulled my legs over his shoulders and rode me hard. I thought I would split, he was huge and it hurt like crazy even though I was dripping wet. He flipped me around and came on my ass.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both passed out from the alcohol pretty soon after. The next morning when we woke up we had another round of it. He went down on me again longer than the night before and then we fucked slowly in the same position as before. I came through the vaginal penetration this time which was a first for me with anyone.
We showered together and made out but didn’t have sex again. After I called an uber and went home.
We hooked up again once more after that a month later before it faded off on its own. We had decent chemistry but nothing in common to talk about. It’s a shame because he’s great in bed, I still think about calling him up sometimes.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told my girlfriends about the guy who gave great oral. They wanted his number too.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My first real orgasms and multiple orgasms at that.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Haven’t met a guy who loves to give oral and that great at oral since.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Sleeping with T opened up my views about sex because I experienced pleasure for the first time. I hadn’t been that attracted to any of the guys before and just went along with it, and none of them had been great which turned me off sex for a while. T made me realise great sex could happen for me and there wasn’t something wrong with my body that made it hard to experience pleasure.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I stopped seeing T because I’d met another guy who I started having feelings for. The sex with this new guy was average but we got along better. It didn’t work out, and I wish I’d kept seeing T on the side because it’s not easy to find someone who can make you come that often.
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