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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Best Sex, Monthly Bootycall

How long ago did this hookup happen? Seven Months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met typically through Tinder. He didn’t impress me much at first as shortly after we matched he sent a message asking ‘when would I be at his place’ but despite this and with a mixture of me not having much hope in Tinder knowing what it was mainly for we messaged briefly for a few weeks before I finally agreed to meet him at his place. I knew it was pretty risky meeting a stranger at their place, but I hadn’t had sex in awhile and he seemed very attractive from the snaps he sent through snapchat.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He messaged that he had the day off and no one would be home so since I was free that morning I agreed to go to his place, I was pretty nervous being new to casual sex at that point and quite reserved and conservative when it came to sex but it was quite thrilling and exciting at the same time as I was hoping it would be a fun and interesting new experience.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I met him in the lobby by the lifts to his apartment.I was quite surprised at first, he was definitely very attractive in person, taller than I thought he’d be and seemed quite the ‘gym buff’ type meeting me in a backwards cap and shirt that showed off his well defined abs. We went into the lifts and luckily no one else was in there as things kicked off pretty quickly when he pushed me into the lift corner and started making out with me pretty heavily. It was Summer and I was wearing a short dress with no underwear which I had text him that, so as we made out he started fingering me which lasted briefly as we quickly got to his apartment level where I followed him into, he showed me his place pretty quickly before leading me into his bedroom which was pretty large and had an amazing huge mirror covering one of the walls which I knew would make it very interesting when having sex.

I placed my bag down, he then started quickly removing my clothes while we made out and pushed me roughly onto the bed, pulled my legs down towards the edge of the bed and started giving me oral while he knelt on the ground. He was amazingly good at it and I was so glad no one was home as I started moaning extremely loudly and pulling at the sheets around me as I orgasmed hugely feeling my body shake slightly as I did. There was very little communication or talking when I was there but he seemed like he knew what he was doing and wanted, which I liked, him being dominant and in control. He pulled my legs down slightly further to go into wheelbarrow position where I discovered he was pretty large and felt amazing, I was even more glad no one was around as I moaned and screamed alot as he thrusted quite hard and deep and caused more amazing orgasms. He had quite the stamina and energy as we ended up having sex for a few hours, with him shifting me to the middle of the bed and having my legs close to my head, having sex on my side and then giving him a handjob while making out him while he moaned in my mouth which was incredibly hot and even more arousing.

I even found myself agreeing to have anal with him, which was the first time I had. I stood on the edge of the bed kneeling down slightly while he gave me a rim job and entered me slowly from behind which felt slightly painful and weird but surprisingly good so he went faster while tugging my hair right back which I saw in the mirror wall, which was weird to see but really hot. Shortly after I started getting changed and then left after briefly talking to him and kissing him goodbye.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was a little unsure about things after as being new to casual sex I wasn’t sure if it was something I could do, but I knew I definitely wanted to have more crazy sex with him. Which we continued too monthly as the both of us found ourselves quite busy at times between us being so busy . But they were always great times of trying new things and pushing my comfort zone which I liked, trying new positions, rougher and kinkier things which I discovered I liked, him using handcuffs on me in a doggy style position, anal in the shower, blindfolds and ropes. So it was always a fun, new experience with him while not having things too personal or intimate.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a couple of close friends, they were generally supportive.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having really good sex without getting attached or feelings complicating things. Being pushed out of my comfort zone and getting comfortable and less judgmental of casual sex. Trying new things.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was a little confusing at first adjusting to things so casual and arranging when to see each other next.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Having crazy, primal like sex without feelings being a problem definitely made me more open and confident towards casual sex. It was a fun, experimental time getting to know alot more and what I like but being someone who does prefer affection and intimacy it was a fun, good phase but I do prefer and want more dating and relationship stuff now.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m generally more open to casual sex and hookups, they can get complicated when things get more intimate and lines can get blurred between just being sex to actually wanting more with them sometimes but generally I find casual sex quite good to be experimental and fun with someone you probably won’t see again or that much of.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I find the stories pretty interesting and enjoy reading them.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!