by Marie

Gender: Female
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Texas
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: N/a
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0


How long ago did this hookup happen? Two weeks ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was much much taller than I am with long hair and a long beard. Not exactly skinny but I didn’t mind. I’ve known them for years and even had a crush on them at one point. We had hooked up twice before this third time and I’ve always considered him a relatively good friend.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began when we started snapchatting each other not really flirty in the beginning. I’d say I instigated it when I started talking about how I was going through a very dry spell and was alone. After that we started planning when we would meet through snapchat and texting and where we could do it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was no oral since we were in a car and couldn’t really adjust ourselves well enough to be able to but there was fingering and handjobs until we eventually did it where I was on top then switched where I was on bottom. During it I felt more confident than I had the previous two times but I was still nervous until we started doing more and I was more open to things. This was the first time actually I’ve been able to orgasm by another person, I actually had two. He also had an orgasm. He behaved maybe slightly more excited than usual and was shy beforehand and he also had an orgasm.
We talked about general stuff like how college was going, what we’ve been doing since we were back in town, small talk. I’d say he was a good lover sexually but maybe not so much emotionally. It ended after my second orgasm I just kinda left because I had to be home soon.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I like having sex with him since he’s the only person I have ever had intercourse with. I was just kind of bored and horny and missed being around him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No alcohol or drugs were involved.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The day after I messaged him asking to see him again because I had to leave in 4 days and never got a response. I’m happy we did it because it was fun and good but kind of upset because ever since we started hooking up we haven’t been as close as before and don’t talk as much. I hope we will fix it in the future and maybe have a talk about our friendship as it stands now. I feel closer to him in a way but also farther from him.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my sisters. They were not really surprised knowing that my partner and I had hooked up in the past.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes it was a consensual and wanted experience for both parties.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Only because I don’t know where our friendship is at or his feelings towards any of it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is it was really really good sex and was incredibly fun and nice to see them again. The worst is maybe the location was kinda last minute and not ideal and I feel sex might be making us grow apart. This hookup hasn’t changed how I think about casual sex or sexuality. I still think numbers shouldn’t matter and it should be a consensual and fun experience. Towards myself maybe I’m slightly more insecure because it was the first time I was seen naked since a surgery but other than that I haven’t had any changes towards myself.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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