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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Public Relations
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Biker party initiation
How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was 20 and had been dating a guy, we’ll call him Nick, for a few months. He’s 6’2″, lean but muscular and has a shaved head. Beautiful blue eyes and a well kept goatee. He was 24 and had just been accepted and patched into a bike club that was rough but not as bad as most. Nick and I met when I was a waitress at a bar they all used to go to and he pursued me even though another guy from the club was as well. We’ll call him Dean.
Nick and I went out a few times and he was, despite his outward appearance of a Harley guy with a shaved head, leather and tons of tattoos, a nice guy. After a few months I slept with him. I wasn’t a prude but I wasn’t casual about sex either.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were together and monogamous for six months or so but Dean never stopped flirting and eventually it became a competition thing between the guys. Nick would flaunt the fact that I was with him; he’d touch me inappropriately in front of Dean just to assert his Alpha and show off. It didn’t bother me but it wasn’t something I particularly liked either. It was kind of amusing because I wasn’t nearly as pretty as some of the girls Dean would bring around.
At a party one night, (there were many parties with this group) Nick and I were on a couch in the middle of a living room. I was sitting on his lap and we were making out. His hands were everywhere but again, that whole Devil-don’t-care attitude was normal with this group. Dean shows up with a woman and sits next to us and starts talking about nonsense. He lifts the girls shirt up and says, “Check out these tits.” At which point I looked at Nick, turned my body and lifted my own shirt and said, “Check these out.” I’ve got DD’s and at 20 they were pretty damn spectacular and Dean, without thinking, reached his hand out and grabbed one.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Nick looked at me and then pushed Dean off before turning me around on his lap so that I was facing the room which had about 20 people in it. I was topless but I leaned back and for close to 10min he just played with my breasts and let everyone watch. As he pulled and flicked my nipples he was whispering dirty things in my ear and grinding his hard-on into my butt. I was dying to fuck by then and told him so. He asked me if I wanted to find a room and I said no, just fuck me please. He hesitated, said he wasn’t sure if I’d regret it when I sobered up and then Dean said, “I’ll fuck you in front of everyone.” Which was all Nick needed to hear. I was naked and sitting on his cock facing him in less than a minute. His pants were around his knees until some girl pulled them down as I was riding him. Not to be out done, the chick Dean brought started to suck him off next to us and the same random girl pulled his jeans off.
Over and over he reached out to touch me but Nick kept shoving him away until finally Nick stood up, bent me over so that my hands were on the back of the couch and started fucking me from behind. Dean raised an eye brow, looked at Nick, smiled and then moved under me and started sucking my nipples as Nick fucked me and I can’t even tell you how good that felt. The chick blowing him kept doing it and every minute or so he’d he’d stop, pull my face down and tell me how good she gave head and how perfect my tits felt in his mouth.
A few minutes later I hear Nick groan, “Oh fuck she’s sucking my balls.” I looked back and the chick that had pulled their jeans off was, in fact, underneath him and sucking his balls while he fucked me. I watched for a few seconds and saw her tongue lick up his seam as they were bouncing around and for some reason that made me cum so hard I thought it would kill me. Nick sped up, gripped my hips super tight and pulled out just in time to cum on my ass while she continued to suck his balls. He shot all the way up to my shoulders and not once did she stop tonguing his balls.
THEN she moved to Dean and sucked his balls while the girl blew him and I went to stand up but he grabbed my tits and begged to suck on them until he came. I let him even though I was super sensitive and within a minute he came all over both of their faces. Everyone applauded, I got extremely embarrassed and we left the party shortly thereafter.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was mortified and sobered up quick. Nick brought me to his house where we showered and then fought like hell because he was so pissed that he’d let Dean touch me. It took a full day of constant sex between us before he felt better and that made me feel better. We wound up at another party two nights later where we got teased and asked for an encore but neither of us were willing to do it again. Dean actually shook Nicks hand and then backed off permanently.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve since told my now husband who does NOT like the story at all but since there were 20+ people that witnessed it, I was afraid he’d hear it from someone else. We moved 1000 miles away for his work so I don’t see anyone else and Nick and I broke up a few months later for reasons not related to this at all.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? Sex is private and I put it all out there on display. It was super hot while we were doing it but looking back, it just makes me sad.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was incredibly hot.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was public. Nothing about it shocked this group of people, in fact I’d seen worse with them but I still felt like I acted in a way that wasn’t who I was.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I learned that I really do think that sex is a private and intimate act for me. The best sex I’ve ever had has been with my husband and I think it’s because we’re monogamous and view sex as an expression of our love for one another instead of it just being about sex. Ironically, I ran into Nick a few years ago and while he wasn’t married and was still in the club, he felt the same way. And yes, married sex can and is super hot.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I have no issues with anyone who wants to have pubic sex. It’s just not for me.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I do not partake in casual sex anymore and don’t imagine I ever will.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I find it fascinating.
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