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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Sacramento, California, US
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Buisness Owner
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? My First

Birthday Fun

How long ago did this hookup happen? One Week

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I will call him Ryan, he is a tall fit muscular man with dark hair and a few tattoos, about five years younger than me. He can also carry a conversation which is a lot more important to me as I have gotten older. Ryan has been a regular sex partner for the past five years or so when I am between boyfriends. He works at my gym as a personal trainer and I met him there when I started working out at the gym. Our relationship very quickly turned sexual and I have always been very attracted to him. It’s worked pretty well for me, Ryan meets my sexual needs and desires without a lot of emotional attachment or the issues of a regular relationship.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A little background here to start. I have had boyfriends and I slept around a bit in college and found that I really enjoy sex. However I found that I prefer a lot of sex with single partner who knows what I like and don’t like sexually. I have had a few of these arrangements with men in the past but with Ryan by far the longest or longer than any romantic relationship I have been in. When I have a boyfriend I don’t sleep with him but right now I do not so I usually fuck Ryan one or two times a week, sometimes at night but sometimes during the day and the occasional morning before work. There is no pressure not to but usually I call him.  I don’t usually turn him down if Ryan texts me looking for sex. I have also found that having sex regularly keeps me relaxed and lets me focus.
About a week before Ryan asked what I waned to do for my birthday. We discussed having another woman join us, something I have been wanting to try for a while, but decided against it. He asked if I may want a romantic evening out and some fun and I said yes.
I dressed up and we went to dinner. The dress was a bit more revealing than I had planned and I got a few looks. We ate dinner and chatted a bit and had a glass of wine each. We remarked on how crowded it was since it was the day before Valentine’s day and we chatted a bit. We had decided to get a hotel room since his place was small and mine was a bit of a drive and it let us drink a bit. We kissed a bit in public, something Ryan and I don’t usually do and we then headed for the room

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got back to the hotel and started making out. My dress came off rather quickly and he sat on a chair while we made out. Eventually Ryan took the rest of my clothes off and insisted on thirty-two swats which I enjoyed. He then gave me a massage and rubbed oils all over me and I have always liked having his hands on me. A quick tip for you guys, ladies like foreplay. After he finished he began to kiss me again and then worked his way downwards and sucked on my tits for a bit and kept working downward until he was giving me oral. His tongue on my clit felt great and he was down there a while, probably about half an hour and I came several times. I got pretty loud and am surprised the neighbors didn’t hear. Usually our fucking is a bit more of a mutual exchange and I have sucked his cock more than a few times but because it was my birthday Ryan said he wanted to focus on me.
I laid there in a post sex bliss for a while. Sometimes I have him go after but that night I felt like cuddling a bit. After a while I felt horny again and mounted him and I like having him inside me. I rode him and he put his hands all over me and we both got loud this time. I let him finish inside me which I like and we both came. I fell asleep soon after.
In the morning we had breakfast in bed and decided to shower together, something we have done in the past. He went down on me in there and getting oral while standing can make it hard to stay standing. We didn’t quite make it back to the bed and he put me on a table and thrust himself inside me. He kissed me and we both came again and I let him finish inside me again. Afterwards he had to go and gave me a kiss goodbye and I promised to text him during the week.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great that next day and if I am being honest I will probably keep sleeping with Ryan for a while. I enjoy the sex a little too much and I am uncomfortable with him. While we have already hooked up once since I have been rethinking things. Without really thinking about it, a year has passed since I broke up with my last boyfriend and I think I may want that again. I think my biological clock is going off a bit too as I have reached a point where I want children and am looking for someone to have them with maybe or am considering doing so by myself. I do not see Ryan as boyfriend material; while we have a lot of fun in the bedroom we don’t actually have that much in common and I don’t think he wants kids. However as I said above, I have no plans of stopping the sex right now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Exchanged recent STI test results

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only one close friend knows about me and Ryan and thinks he is good for me and says I am a lot more relaxed after my times with him. However she is married and I don’t think getting enough attention from her husband and a bit jealous.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Just letting go and enjoying myself

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I would say the realization that I have been using my hookups with Ryan to avoid a relationship

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It hasn’t really changed how I feel about casual sex or sexuality however I have learned that casual sex can be used to avoid relationships and I am one who may tend to do that. However as I said I have found I need sex regularly to function so it is hard to avoid.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? One thing I saw on the older posts I read was about protection. Ryan and I stopped using condoms when it is just him and me a while ago but I am on birth control and we were both recently tested to be safe.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would say casual sex is a big part of my life and there is a lot of pressure in society to have it. Not sure how I would like to see that changed though

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting and I have enjoyed reading the accounts.

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