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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

BJ For Straight Co-Worker

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My friend/co-worker is straight and recently married to a woman. He’s 6’2” and has a total dad bod. I’m gay and six years younger than him. We have worked together for about 2 years and have developed a friendship outside of work. I find it difficult to open up to people, but with him, it came naturally and I have developed feelings for him and sexual attraction. He is very flirty with me which has caused confusion for me because he is straight and in a relationship. He knows that I am gay, but has continued his flirtatious behavior toward me. Over the holidays I became increasingly depressed because I want him to fuck me so much, but he got married and it seemed like I would never get the opportunity to have sex with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Right before New Year’s, he called me, and since I was feeling down, he asked if I wanted to come over to his house and hang out and get drunk. I agreed because I needed some cheering up over the holidays and hanging out with a friend is what I needed. This was also the first time I was going to meet his wife, so I was a bit anxious about that. I went over to his house, met his wife (who is super sweet), and got drunk and high. A lot of deep conversations were had that night that bonded us closer together. Late into the evening, my friend’s wife went upstairs to pass out, and my friend and I were left out on the porch while he smoked a cigarette. My friend’s wife called him on his cell to find out when he was coming up for bed, and I jokingly told him to tell her that I was blowing him right now and that he’d be up in a bit. He told her that and we laughed it off. A few minutes passed and I told my friend that my dick was hard from thinking about blowing him, to which he replied: “Let’s see it.” I turned to him and asked him if he wanted me to blow him. He said yes and I reached out my hand and he helped me up. I knelt down to find his dick out and waiting for me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I couldn’t believe this was really happening, and I hoped that this wasn’t some drunken mistake. As I walked over to him, I heard him say under his breath that I was “hot.” He said that he’d never done anything with a guy before, and I asked him if he was sure he wanted this and he said yes. He had already pulled his dick out and I eagerly took him in my mouth. The moans coming out of his mouth made me so hard. I sucked his dick and his huge balls and he was loving it. His cell phone rang (his wife upstairs) and I stopped and went back to sit on my chair. After he got off the phone, he got up and walked to where I was sitting and put his dick in my mouth. He grabbed my head to control the movement and I was in heaven talking his whole dick in my mouth. He eventually stopped it because he was having a difficult time staying hard because he was so drunk, but he said it was a fantastic BJ.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning, I wasn’t sure if he would remember it or if he did if he would talk about it. When I saw him, he smiled and said he enjoyed the experience. I told him I was bummed that I didn’t get to finish the job, but gave him an open invitation to try again to which he eagerly accepted. Later that morning, in his kitchen, he whipped out his dick to show me what it looks like hard. I asked if I could touch it. He agreed and I went over and started stroking his dick and playing with his balls. I wanted to go down on him, and he did agree, but I said we shouldn’t since his wife was upstairs and she could have walked in on me blowing her husband. We are still co-workers and friends, and we haven’t talked about the experience since then. I haven’t been back to his house since then. I really want to blow him to completion and find out if he would want to fuck me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A close friend. They supported the hookup.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fulfillment of a fantasy, finding out that my “straight” friend is attracted to me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t get him to cum.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I didn’t think I could do something like this before, but now I’m more open to casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I need to have more casual sex!

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it!

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